Sex PP

Alright so I had sex 6 weeks and 2 days PP. Don’t get me wrong I enjoyed it but it was different. I felt a little pressure as if I was tighter, which my OB said is normal & will take time to “get back to normal”. What was anyone else experience like? When does it feel “normal” again?

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I didn’t have sex for almost 4 months… but that was because I had a 4th degree tear and didn’t want him around my girl lmao

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I don’t remember the exact time it was back to normal, I want to say a month or so, but it felt SO weird after I was genuinely scared it wasn’t going to go back but it does. I feel like it may be different for everybody.

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I would say it took a better part of 12-18 months for things to ‘be normal’ again. And even now (at 18 months pp) sometimes I still just don’t enjoy it the way I used to. It’s a mental thing just as much as it physical. I would 10/10 recommend a pelvic floor therapist, and I would also recommend a candid open notion conversation with your partner about where you are at and what you are feeling!

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