I feel helpless and guilty. Advice?
I am currently 26 weeks pregnant and I have little to nothing for my baby yet because her dad and I are struggling financially. I stopped working 2 weeks ago because my body couldn’t handle it anymore and my job was very physically taxing (I am a private caregiver (( I give baths, feed, lift clients, etc… and they try to fight me sometimes). My child’s father is still working but he lost one of his jobs a couple weeks after we found out I was pregnant. My hours at work were also cut around that time, so even though I was still working up to two weeks ago, I wasn’t making much. We don’t live together so we both pay rent & bills of our own & that’s all we can afford to do right now. In all 3 years we’ve been together, this is the FIRST time we’ve ever been super low on cash and we have a baby on the way! I’m freaking out & I feel like I’ve already failed my child. I low-key regret continuing the pregnancy with these circumstances. I LOVE LOVE LOVE my baby, but I hate feeling so helpless. I’ve been trying to find ways to make money from home, but a lot of things require money to start. My child’s father is looking for another job as well as other ways to make money too, but nothing is really working out consistently. I know this won’t last forever but I just can’t see a way out for us right now. My boyfriend has NEVER not had money since I met him and it’s starting to really annoy me, I feel bad for saying this and feeling this way, but it’s really overwhelming because I am no longer able to work. I am trying to give him grace because I know this must very hard and stressful for him right now too.
Maybe im being extra?
I had my baby december 2025. We havent had sex since september 2025. It's now April 2026. Since about February I have been hinting im ready for sex, bought condoms (not a fan of pills) and like been pretty clear i want sex.
He claims he does too, but then when baby is down... hes already asleep. And he complains we dont have the time, but couples who want intimacy make the time right?
I should have added it had pregnancy pre and post complications where my kidneys lost all function and I nearly died 5 days post c section.
Am I asking too much for sex? Its making me consider finding someone else to take interest in me because in trying my best to be less fat and ugly post birth - getting facials, getting my hair done, being all nice an the response i get is him asleep.
He doesnt even like do the heavy lifting with the baby - i do it all. He had the baby today for like 2.5 hours in total. And on days he works it's less than 30 minutes. I do both day and night shift with the baby as well.
I just feel like since the baby im not attractive, or worth his time. I feel undervalued and unappreciated. And I have voiced this and he just doesnt respond or take it in. He even said "i said we could have sex but the baby was screaming at the time" in what way is that an appropriate time to tell me you wanna fuck? When im overwhelmed by a bay who wont stop crying?
Its just, I dont know what to do anymore. Ive lost weight, I make myself presentable i do EVERYTHING for him and the baby and I csnt even get sex when I want after nearly dying.
Sorry to rant but its hard work feeling like a milk maid and you have no other personality but being a mum.
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