Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Struggling badly

Newby here. Never been part of an app like this before but im at the point of trying everything i can find. Im 32 with 3 kids (15/11/4)
Ive struggled with poor mental health since childhood and last year my GP reffered me for Autism testing. Also suspect my youngest is on the spectrum somewhere. I am DROWNING in it all right now. My GP has changed my meds 3 times this year already to try and find one that works better and i am constantly over whelmed and over stimulated. The older im getting the more sensitive im getting to "little things" that send me over the edge and my youngest has multiple melt downs per day (fully aware my energy, or should i say lack of, will play its own part in this too)
My village is non existant. I am more so on a remote deserted island with the kids and "partner". This is hard. Im exhausted, im juggling all the roles whilst forgetting my own basic needs and due to social anxieties ive no one to even meet up with to chat about it all over a coffee because i will only blab my life story and then convince myself the other person hates me and my entire bloodline 30 minutes after getting back home and playing out the whole conversation and the other persons words/body language for the next 365 days. Please tell me im not the only mum wanting to pack a bag and dissapear?

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No you are not . What you are feeling may be coming from being overworked as a mom and over exhaustions . If possible please ask for more help from your partner family members so that you can have some more time for yourself to pick up the pieces . I know it’s hard but this too shall pass. Know that you are wonderful , strong mother . Love x

That is so tough! Do you have a partner? Other parents in your neighborhood?

Honestly I’m very similar to you - I really crave connection and friendship, but I feel like I bomb every interaction, then I find myself avoiding.

While I still don’t have any close friendships, I have begun to just be myself and try my best to be confident in that.

There is nothing, NOTHING you can do to change how others view you, especially not by worrying about it.

🫂🫂🫂

I'm sorry you're going through this! Sending 🤗

I feel like this somedays as well. We should connect.

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