Impossible toddler

Anyone else going through similar?

Currently my daughter’s behaviour is really testing and I’m struggling.
She will not let me change her nappy. I have to pin her down and it’s horrific for me and her. I’ve tried absolutely everything except for taking her nappies away and potty training her. But she’s way too young and she just wouldn’t get it. That’s what my guts tells me. She’s showed no signs what so ever for being ready, she doesn’t try take her nappy off and she can’t even pull her trousers up or down. She just simple doesn’t want to get changed.

Also she just says NO! To nearly everything I ask of her and throws herself to the ground. And I wouldn’t mind but I’m pretty chill and easy going and I almost encourage play, freedom and I’m not overly protective.

I’m also not embarrassed and I couldn’t care less about her behaviour in public but it’s more for myself. By the end of the day I’m so drained.

Help! She’s 20 months.

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Husband wants to go on a trip 37 weeks pregnant

Just reached 37 weeks today. Husband wants to go visit his parents because he won’t see them for a while (they’re not visiting and we are only going to see them in feb). He thinks it’s doable. I’m very hurt and don’t feel prioritized. What to say

NEED TO RANT

My husband and I have recently come abroad with our baby to meet his parents and family. We have been here 1 day and he has gone out drinking with his friends. I wouldn’t mind usually except he came home at 8:30pm drunk looking for a bottle of alcohol. His mum enables him and they were opening every cupboard imaginable and making so much noise that he woke our baby up. Our baby who hasn’t slept today due to the amount of visitors we have had. He then got his drink and left again. He left the room in such a mess as well. He didn’t even apologise for waking our child up showing he doesn’t care at all.

I’m fed up because we have come to see his family and introduce our baby. I don’t speak the language either so there’s a barrier. Most of them are telling me what to do (using arm gestures etc so we understand each other) and I’m lonely. It’s not a break or holiday for me. I enjoy myself more at home. I know while I’m here I’ll just be stuck inside at home every day and that isn’t what I want for me and my baby.

I feel like I want out of my marriage. Am I wrong with how I feel? x

Mothers being told they don’t do anything!!

Has anyone in your life told you that as a mother or even a stay at home mother that you don’t do anything??? I have bipolar type 1 and adhd and my son has autism. So I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not perfect that maybe I am a type c mom. But I know for damn sure that I don’t do anything is not true. My partner and I got into an argument and I can’t get over how he said I don’t do anything. Mind you he works night shift so he sleeps during the day. I can go down the list of everything I be doing but I know most people on this app know the truth!!!

So I’m at the point right now where I’m so hurt and angry that I am not going to do anything so he could see how this house looks when “I don’t do anything” I have checked out. I know this might be wrong so I’m asking y’all has this happened to you and what did you do? How did you feel? What should I do? I’m honestly just hurt and feel unappreciated……..

Needing support or friendships🩷

I recently left my spouse due to dv and constant disrespect. I could feel him sucking the life out of me. I am 17 weeks pregnant with two other children. I have been a stay at home mom and he drained our bank account. Has anyone else ever gone through this? I wouldn’t wish this hell on anyone 😞

Visiting family

Putting this out there just to see if anyone can share some advice.

Since having my little boy I’ve experienced some anxiety about going outside, especially when it’s just me and him. I feel a lot more confident when my other half joins us and have been venturing out a lot more lately.

My mum lives on the other side of the country and has been visiting once a month since our baby was born. (Her visits stress me out every time they approach as she if very patronising, condescending and rude.)
For Novembers visit, she wants to bring me and my baby back with her to spend some time at her house. Also, main reason being, my grandma is over there in a home on account of being nearly 100 years old. My mum has been guilt tripping me saying she won’t get to meet my baby before she dies 😩

My worries about this:
-The drive is LONG and my son hates car seats, I’m panicking he’ll just cry the whole way.
-My other half can’t join us. He has work and can’t just leave everything for a few days to take the trip.
-I would not be able to leave my son with my mum and stepdad for a second. (Even to shower/nip to the loo) they’re both elderly and clueless. Plus they have two dogs that I don’t trust around the baby and I just don’t think they’d be vigilant enough watching them.
-My baby hasn’t been sleeping too well lately and it’ll be hard doing all day and all night alone if we have some bad ones.
-Before I had my baby I hated going there, I don’t get on particularly well with them and have never been close with my grandma, growing up I felt more like a nuisance to her.

My mum is aware of my anxious feelings and at first didn’t put pressure on me. But now she talks about the trip as if it’s a done deal, leaving me no excuse not to go. HELP 😭

She thinks mental health is a ‘load of rubbish’ and thinks people with anxiety/depression are attention seeking. So even though I have spoken to her about it, I can tell she just thinks I’m pathetic

I really feel like if I go, it will be a huge set back for my mental health which I’ve been working so hard to build back by taking small steps.

Am I wrong

So I am a 38 year old female with 3 kids and one being autistic. My two youngest’s dad says he wants more kids with me. I told him no I don’t want anymore kids. I had so much complications with my last son had to have an emergency c section. I am still having so much pain and still have pain from the c-section after 6 years they sued up a piece of my uterus wall when they were closing me back up. So now he mad at me cause I said no I don’t want anymore kids