Worried about my anemic step daughter’s eating habits

Hi mums and step mums, just looking for some advice really. My step daughter (6) lives with me and my partner full time, and I’m getting increasingly concerned about her heath and diet. She’s been diagnosed with anemia and is on liquid iron. She’s absolutely awful with fruit and veg, like she will pick veg out of sauce if we have pasta or curry and will only eat like half an apple if we make her eat one… she likes strawberries but we can’t afford to only give her these! All day she just wants crisps and unhealthy snacks and never wants healthy things unless we make her have them…

I made curry tonight and she didn’t eat any of the actual curry, just the rice.. she’s been off school poorly today because she kept falling asleep in class and I can see this is because she’s low in iron as isn’t eating the right food and I want to see change!

It doesn’t help because my partner doesn’t give her the iron medicine because she cries when she has to have it (it’s supposed to be every other day but I don’t think he’s given it to her for over two weeks now…. And if I go to do it he says no he’ll do it but doesn’t..)

How can I help her to overcome this fussiness and help her eat more fruit and veg without overstepping my responsibilities as a step mum?

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MON - nursery
TUES - home
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FRI - nursery
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I watched her have CPR twice while she waited for open heart surgery and the trauma of her 4 month fight from birth has me in a chokehold.

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