Worried about my anemic step daughter’s eating habits

I'd blend the veg to be in the sauces
The unhealthy stuff is a no go if she's not eating what she needs to
Maybe smoothies too

With your partner, he needs to sort his shit out for not giving her meds when she needs them

Set dinner out as options? Like buffet style so she chooses what she wants of each and explain she must have some veg/fruit, some protein and some carbs at every meal. I'd also blend and hide fruit and veg in everything!

I remember my step son at 6 wouldn't eat any meat other than chicken so we had "water chicken" and "oink chicken" and "moo chicken". See it as a marketing exercise almost, it's not the food it's how it's sold 😂

What about smoothies? Add vanilla yoghurt or honey to sweeten the fruit / veg.
To be honest though if she's been prescribed medication for the anaemia then food alone isn't going to help, she needs to be having her medicine whether she likes the taste or not

As a comment had said above, blend the veggies so it looks like “just sauce”
Does she have to take the liquid iron by itself? You could get the drops and let her have a bit of a stronger squash to take it? Or mix with orange juice and that’ll help absorb the iron.
Some cereal have added iron and raisins/apricots also are a good source of iron. Aldi sell packs of raisins for a good price. I have also seen cordial with added iron in Tesco. I have anaemia myself and my body finds it hard to absorb but found the orange juice has helped x

Sadly she won’t even eat that, we tried that before.. she still picks the sauce off and just eats the pasta 🫣
Honestly she’d live on just plain pasta, crisps, chocolate pastries and cereal if we let her..


And she has this chocolate mint flavoured liquid iron, it sounds quite nice actually! But apparently it’s awful.. I think I need to speak to my partner about this though because really needs to make sure she’s having it, especially with her being poorly today x

Plain pasta, crisps, chocolate pastries and cereal are all REALLY predictable foods. None of them present any sensory issues and can be trusted to reliably taste the same. It could be a sensory issue? Ask her why she doesn't want to eat other foods and try to get a specific answer about each? It's just twigged about being neuro-divergent and having sensory issues, it took my partner years to eat some foods and even now things like mushrooms can't be "slimy" so I grate them into things and veg like carrots are too "sweet" when cooked so he has them raw... And he's 40! Even kids without any neuro-divergence can struggle with sensory issues and want things to be really predictable. Might be worth researching ideas for neuro-divergent kids with food issues cause they've looked into it more and the answer might be there for you?