Baby name regret

Need advice on what to do with this situation… I really regret my 18 month olds name and have done for a while. When he was around 6 months this feeling started and at around 8 months I discussed it with my husband and he said he wasn’t that keen on the name on the first place but he just came round to it because I really liked it. He said well that is his name now he responds to it etc and everyone knows his name so I thought we’ll just leave it now and maybe this feeling will go away I thought it could also be post partum related. Fast forward a year I still don’t like it and I cringe when I call him or anyone else says it and I wish I would’ve persuaded my husband to change it back then (I think he would’ve eventually) it would’ve been so simple then to just amend his birth certificate as he was under 1 and looking back he was still really young for people to get used to the change now it’s a case of changing by deed poll and he seems too old now. Has anyone else been through this? What do I do?

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Could you start by calling him 2 names and then slowly drop the original name, so he gets used to it?

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Why don't you like it? Do you feel like it's embarrassing or something he'll get bullied for in the future?

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Baby name regret

Need advice on what to do with this situation… I really regret my 18 month olds name and have done for a while. When he was around 6 months this feeling started and at around 8 months I discussed it with my husband and he said he wasn’t that keen on the name on the first place but he just came round to it because I really liked it. He said well that is his name now he responds to it etc and everyone knows his name so I thought we’ll just leave it now and maybe this feeling will go away I thought it could also be post partum related. Fast forward a year I still don’t like it and I cringe when I call him or anyone else says it and I wish I would’ve persuaded my husband to change it back then (I think he would’ve eventually) it would’ve been so simple then to just amend his birth certificate as he was under 1 and looking back he was still really young for people to get used to the change now it’s a case of changing by deed poll and he seems too old now. Has anyone else been through this? What do I do?

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I can’t wrap my head around it maybe I don’t want to believe it I just I don’t know if I’m crazy or not.

My toddler is 4 years she started reception this September. She’s an only child and it’s her first school setting full. She’s always been home with me since birth. She’s never been away from me 5 days a week 8 hours a day. She started full time with no transition.

For 6 weeks I thought she was getting on fine because she’s always happy to go to school she always cries because she’s wants me to take her to school!

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My toddler is very emotional in the sense she gets upset quickly if she doesn’t want to do something or she’s being told no. She’ll get fussy teary but that’s about it. Either she settles or she moves on with another activity.

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I’ve never seen such behaviour at home or at soft plays of at local parks. I’ve seen the staff all this time and nobody has even told me anything from the first incident. At least after the 5th or 10th at most I should have been made aware if it was that concerning? Why wait till 17 and corner and force me into believing this?

I have a hard time to believe it because she’s not aggressive at home or at school. She loves going to school. Teacher said she doesn’t hit the children but apparently she hits a big grown adult?

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