Derealisation

I’m currently 30+5 and the past couple weeks I’ve been having awful moments of feeling like nothing is real and I start freaking out. Has anyone else been struggling with this?

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I was stuck in a state of derealisation for 5 years, I did some research into it and apparently the best ways to get through it is either therapy or just accepting how you’re feeling in that moment and letting it pass. The more you’re aware of the derealisation and the more you think about it the harder it can be to get out of it.
Don’t worry, it does pass and eventually life gets back to normal.
I’m here if you want to talk more about it x

Yes! I’m currently also 30 weeks. I am so so unprepared. Still busy painting my bedroom and the nursery. Nothing is organised or ready, I have some clothes for baby and that’s all! I actually keep forgetting that I’m pregnant, or think I have all the time in the world and then I suddenly remember that I am and she’ll be here in the next 10 weeks and I panic!

Currently just trying to take it one day at a time and hoping and praying that it’s all sorted and ready before she makes her arrival ❤️

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I’m 6 weeks +5 and I feel like I have a bump already it’s really hard at work because people are starting to notice, anyone else have this

Did I cause my emergency c section?

Hey.
My wee one is now 11 weeks old and I feel I have recovered well from my c section but I cant seem to shake this guilt that I have.
I was induced due to high blood pressure and the start of pre eclampsia. I was against an induction and would have preferred a planned c section but the Drs convinced me to go ahead with the balloon induction. As soon as it was inserted I was in a lot of pain (especially in my back) but it was to be kept in 24 hours. Once removed I was only 1cm dilated and they broke my waters. They wanted to put me on the hormone drip and I refused as I wanted to see if contractions came on without it and they did. 4 hours later, I was contracting every 3 minutes and had the epidural but the contractions continued intensifying and my baby's heart rate was dropping dramatically, which is why I was rushed away for an emergency c section. Im wondering if I'd had the hormone drip, would the outcome be different? Would I have dilated faster and been able to have a vaginal birth? I don't know if I made the right decision not having the hormone drip. Anyone else's experience similar to mine?

Self referral - Badger Notes

I recently found out I’m expecting my second so did a self referral in order to have a midwife and sort out the booking appointment. I made the referral on the 3rd April so taking out the days for Easter, it has now been 8 working days since making it.

How quickly or slowly did you guys get the first contact from the midwife team?

This is completely different from when I had my first as I just phoned up and got a call back from them within 24 hours.

Having to go incognito as no one knows I’m pregnant yet.

How are you getting scans so early?

I’m 6 weeks pregnant today and don’t have my first NHS booking appointment until 8 weeks, with the first scan scheduled for 11 weeks.

I love reading posts in this group, but I’ve noticed some mums are getting scans from as early as 7 weeks (sometimes even earlier!).

It would be really helpful to have more information about these early scans (if you are comfortable sharing!) to help those of us who feel anxious and would like reassurance before the NHS-recommended timings.

Positive elective stories please 🙏

My elective c section is booked for tomorrow at 41 weeks following an extremely traumatic birth with my son 3 and a half years ago that ended in an emergency c section. I've had a lot of therapy to deal with this and decided to try for a vbac this time, but to book an elective in case she goes overdue.

However, now I'm here I'm freaking out. I sat down to read all the info they've sent me last night and it's triggered something because I've gone into full on fight or flight mode, everything in my body is screaming at me to run. I can't even think about it without crying, I've cried all night and woken up crying this morning.

Please send me your positive elective c section stories, I need to fill my brain with positivity right now and try to get into a good headspace for tomorrow 😥

PGP & vaginal birth

I have had really bad pelvic girdle pain and sacroiliac joint dysfunction since I've been 4 months pregnant. I am now on constant painkillers and can only walk with crutches. Does anyone have experience with something like this and had a vaginal birth? I did not experience anything like this with my first baby, and now I am so worried about not being able to move as I need to during birth. So I am considering an elective csection, even though the consultant did not recommend it, given I already had a vaginal birth before. Any experience sharing would be v much appreciated 🙏 (and don't hesitate to message me privately). Thanks!