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My baby used to get up once or twice at night now it’s literally every hour to feed even though he feeds loads during the day and it’s killing me and getting me really down anyone else in the same boat and have any advice? He’s breastfed and won’t take a bottle so it’s literally just me all day every day and I have a older child I can’t spend much time with because the baby is attached to me

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Hey, sorry you're experiencing this. Sounds like you've hit the regression. From what I've experienced and read, the only way out of it is to help them learn how to self settle. (Obviously if you didn't eventually they will learn to fall asleep but that could take a while)
My LO is breastfed too and we've been practicing getting her to fall asleep without being fed to sleep. I highly recommend using Just Chill Mama to help with this. She's amazing and science backed.

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Hey, so sorry I completely feel you. I came out of this cycle of waking up every hour just now… and I know how hard it is!!
My LO Is combo feed, bottle during the day, breastfed at night.
However we had to do a lil “sleep training” because it was killing me and I also have a toddler who started waking up at night too 😱
Eventually he learnt to self-soothe on his own without the booby. Since then he started to sleep throughout, usually 6:30 pm to 6 am. He still waking up once for a feed during the night usually between 2-4.
I found the sleep training is what really helped me the most.
Good luck 🤞🏼

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In the same boat my 5 month (just turned 5 months today) has always been up multiple Ans I mean lots of times through the night he's never ever slept through or anywhere near it, he needs to feed to sleep And that is sometimes a battle as he's on off on off, also fights his naps during the day, he sleeps in car on school runs but it's Def not long enough..I'm sorry I don't no what the answer is just wanted to let u no Ur not alone.

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