Advice?
Recently someone I considered a close friend of mine blocked me. Our friendship for the last couple years has been rocky but at one point for a very long time she was my best friend. During my pregnancy she re entered my life and I welcomed her with open arms because regardless of the things that had happened and the way things made me feel, I still hold her very close to my heart. Since I had my baby we had constantly been making plans for her to come see her for the first time, but they always fell through due to me and my partner just being too exhausted, my communication lacked I will take full accountability many times I could’ve just said, the last thing I’ll do is make excuses for myself, but being a first time mum is hard and very mentally challenging, most things generally do just slip my mind. But when the plan fell through last she blocked me, which is within her right I suppose, I could have communicated better. Post partum is giving me a tough time and I think it stings more because I don’t have very many friends, I never wished for this to happen, I said countless times I wanted nothing more for her to meet my baby and I meant it, when things like this happen to me I feel very hard, and pp is mentally challenging enough, I guess I just want to know if there’s anyway I can think better about this, I’ve apologised but I don’t think she’s interested in hearing me out and that’s fine. I just don’t want to feel sad, I wish I could just forget.
Has anyone else found they no longer feel *in love* with their partner?
Myself and my fiancé have been together for 10 years this year. We have a 2yo together and are due to get married next year. I do still love him and I couldn't imagine my life without him, but I just don't particularly feel *in love* with him anymore. I can't really describe it but I almost feel numb. Ever since we got engaged and had our child I feel like I've not been particularly happy, but not unhappy either. I don't really get excited for our plans anymore. I don't really feel much emotion when we argue or equally when we kiss/cuddle/are intimate. I wondered whether I could be suffering some form of post partum depression or maybe our spark has just died. I also have absolutely no libido which doesn't help. I have no desire to be touched or to have sex or for any intimacy. I can happily go long periods of time without being hugged/kissed/having sex or showing any form of affection.. I think this is an issue in itself. But definitely doesn't help the relationship. Im feeling worried about it the more our wedding is approaching wondering whether I can fix how I feel or whether it could just continue. I want to feel in love again, I don't know where it went wrong or what changed? It's like a switch has just flipped in my brain. Am I just too touched out from becoming a mum? I feel immensely guilty every day because all I ever wanted was us to buy a house, get married, have children, etc. Now I've got it all and something just isn't sitting right.. Ughh
Has anyone else experienced this??? Help😕
