Im wondering if anyone on here has left and as a sahm with no support system no help. How? How did you do it how are you doing now? I have to go and i just dont know where to start and I need the reality im looking to face..
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It’s hard i know, I’m a single mum of a newborn and the bd is not in the picture at all, so my pregnancy and post partum I did alone, I was lucky enough to have my brother come and stay with me, I also live with mum and step dad but they don’t help out at all

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I relate to what you’re saying so much every day you just wake up and do the best you can and use whatever resource you have and don’t expect perfection. It’s really really hard for the best thing I think I can say is to show up for yourself. Love yourself be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Nobody will take care of you like you.

I’m in a process of leaving because I don’t have nobody

I left because of abuse. I stayed in a domestic violence womens shelter for a month. Applied for rapid rehousing. I applied for every type of financial aid( snap, Tanf, wic, etc) I signed up for programs that offer free clothes and toiletries for women and children. It was a slow and rough start but we are thriving. I've created a new routine. Started a new job. Keep your head up. Stay strong. The days will be hard and long but it is so worth it. I've never known such peace

I’ll reach out to me because I love a similar situation. Are you settled in a home now or do you live?

U can leave the baby with dad or his family until ur better and have found work and a place to stay.
He needs to assume these responsibilities for putting u through this
Sahm mommy needing a clingy mommy friend🩷

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So, my husband has been cheating on me for the past four years, and I recently started cheating on him too. I met this amazing guy who wants me all to himself. He knows I’m married, and he’s made it clear that he doesn’t want me having sex with anyone else. However, I had sex with someone else today, and I kind of feel guilty about it. Is it normal to feel guilty toward my side piece rather than my husband?
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My partner has been paying to have sex with women he finds online on a specific website. My baby is only 7 months old and I found out he has been doing this since I was pregnant. He won’t admit it and will say I’m crazy and making things up although I saw everything on his phone. He tells me loves me and doesn’t want to lose his family. I really wanted to have a family. We barely have conversations, sex or do any couple stuff, he spends more time at work or hanging out with friends every day off he gets. I only see him for a few hours every week even though we live together. I’m asleep before and when comes back from work as he has 2 jobs. We were only a fling and I got pregnant 2 months after us meeting but he begged me to keep our baby and to stay in our relationship, and now it feels like I’m the one who begged.
I no longer feel beautiful or confident and keep comparing myself to the women he’s meeting up with (they look nothing absolutely nothing like me). It’s affecting my whole life as I barely have any motivation to do fun stuff with my baby or to even brush my teeth and make myself look nice.
Any advice?
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Does anybody claim their a single parent even though they are not to get extra help?
I want a year off on maternity with my baby but me and my partner are realising we can’t afford it. We won’t get anything as we both have jobs and a mortgage.
But during maternity I’ll be getting hardly anything .
Anyone done it or been in this position?
I get it if no one will comment as of course people will want to remain anonymous.
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My partner of 8 years proposed on Sunday night. Of course I said yes. But I am devistated at how he did it.
I wanted something romantic- a day out together/weekend away/we have a holiday planned in a few weeks could have done it then/scavenger hunt with places we’ve been.
He did it in front of the tv whilst we were watching breaking bad the ep where Hank gets shot. He said nothing more personal than in our home. Fine but then make it romantic. So many lovely ways to do it - Monica and chandler way candles.
He said he couldn’t wait any longer which I know is sweet but it’s also about him. I have been waiting my whole life for this moment.
I have given him the ring back and said I love you it’s a million yes’s to you and the ring but I just want something a bit more romantic. Aita?
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Hello! I’m a 24 year old mom to a 3 year old and I’d love to find besties either in my area or FaceTime buddies!
I just moved to Fort Worth from Iowa with my husband and I don’t know anyone in the area. I’ve had some falling outs with a lot of my friends from back home due to unnecessary drama.
I’d love to just be able to talk about our hobbies, get coffee, have play dates, maybe start a book club? Basically anything that’s drama free, I’m down for!
I’m a yapper and clingy so definitely message me if you’re interested in chaotic texts throughout the day, book rants, gossip, and just sitting on FaceTime while we both get things done around the house.

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