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My husband and I have been together for 7 yrs and we have a 3 y/o and 6 y/o. Our sex life has always been very up and down. Not helped by the fact that early in our relationship I caught him masturbating to pictures of people we knew. I believe he has a very unhealthy relationship with sex.

However I also have a low sex drive since having our children. He argues our spark is gone and that I don’t put any effort in to get it back. I’m trying my best but I’m so tired all the time between working and looking after the children.

If we go a couple of weeks without he then will start to have a shitty attitude towards me, won’t want to hug me or want me near him.

He’ll ask earlier in the day if I think we’ll have sex that night and if I then don’t stick to it then it becomes a problem. I admit I probably don’t always try as hard as I could but I also think he has very unrealistic expectations.

I just don’t know what to do😭

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Returning to work this week

I go back to work Wednesday from mat leave.

I am the breadwinner so staying home isn’t an option (plus I worked really hard to get where i’m at). I am excited but also dreading it.

please give advice on how to handle the transition! / how was it when you went back to work?

I’m so angry smh

Everytime my boyfriend calls me from jail … look I know he loves and adores me, I love him as well but can’t but be a bitch when reminded he might not happen to be at the baby shower . (My first pregnancy but his second child) he already got to experience his first sons birth, baby shower, doctor appointments etc with his first baby mama and I’m hormonal so I’m definetly mean but I’m good sometimes and then get reminded I’m going to have to also have the baby shower (I’m not financially stable to even use my own money for one) and yet him not being here for it makes me be mean to him I know he hates when I’m mean to him about it and yes he didn’t choose to be locked up but I CANT HELP but be angry. I lowkey have resentment towards this. I feel like … the moment he ever cheats on me or tries me I will leave with no hesitation just because I’m doing my best with this pregnancy on my own. Yes he does send money here and there just enough for groceries and the phone but cmon we have nothing set for the baby except some clothes.

Leaving to start over

Im wondering if anyone on here has left and as a sahm with no support system no help. How? How did you do it how are you doing now? I have to go and i just dont know where to start and I need the reality im looking to face..

i just need to vent..

this is such a long story. when my daughter was two months old.. her father began cheating on me. she’s 7 months old now.

our living situation became unstable.. we began struggling financially.. and add postpartum hormones (maybe even postpartum anxiety or ppd).. he distanced himself from me. the first time he physically cheated on me.. we tried working things out. we went to couples therapy and everything. he said he would never cheat on me again.. but he did. literally a week after we moved into our new apartment. i was devastated. i had to pack up everything and move again. he said i could stay as long as i needed.. but why would i when he claimed he was in a relationship with someone else? i know he probably just wanted help with rent. so anyway.. i left. and then his life began to fall apart. apparently there was a warrant out for his arrest due to a violation of probation. after learning more about why he was arrested.. turns out that warrant was from 2 years ago. we were together during that time.. so i know exactly what happened. he didn’t do anything wrong.. but for some reason.. he got arrested for it recently. mind you.. we haven’t even been broken up for a month.. and so that means all this time.. he was being compliant with meeting his probation officer. only with meeting him. because during all this time.. he was also lying about a few things that further violated the terms of his probation. so now.. because of that.. he is on house arrest and lost everything he had. our apartment? well his now.. he’s going to lose that too. and now.. he is facing jail time. about a week before all of this happened.. he said he wanted to talk to me.. but i refused and blocked him on his backup phone. his main phone was already blocked. after he got out from jail earlier this week.. he called me from the p.o. office saying that he needed me to meet him at the apartment due to an emergency. so i went. i thought his p.o. wanted to talk to me tbh. he hadn’t seen our daughter for a few weeks so i brought her. he then began to tell me that he made a mistake and he apologizes for what he did to me. he said he wants his family back. all in a matter of a few days. mind you.. he doesn’t know this.. but his probation officer had called me telling me he got arrested before he even had the police call me to bail him out. that night.. his “girlfriend” filed a missing person report. the next day.. his p.o. called me asking me what that was about because i had told him that we’re no longer together a few weeks before all this happened. so now.. he’s denying that he has a girlfriend saying that it was a fling and he is practically begging for me to “come back home”. my guess is that he really has no way of contacting her because he probably doesn’t know her number by heart and he no longer has a phone.

but anyway.. no. i’m not going “back home”. i literally dealt with so much stress.. sadness.. anger.. and more because of his actions. i have no resources or energy to help him. i made the mistake of telling him i still love him. and now.. all he asks is that i be there for him. because we both know that he is going back to jail…

its just a matter of time.

if he goes back.. he may be facing 5 years. i can’t trust that he will change. he already promised me before that he will never cheat on me again. i can’t put my love life on hold for 5 years for a man who may not even change.

i am in therapy. trying to pick up my pieces for myself and my daughter. everything used to be so good between him and i. after i had my daughter.. everything changed. i hate this so much.

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Looking for my mom bestie , gotta be willing to text , talk otp from time to time & possibly link up . Able to do long distance as well 🫶🏽

You’re not alone 🫶🏾

I’m honestly feeling really down and lonely rn, just looking for community. I’m not even sure if this post will reach anyone but I want all my adults who were extremely sheltered as a child and not allowed outside much, for whatever reasons, I want you to know I see you.

Learning social, emotional, and relationship skills as an adult is a peculiar, exhausting experience. But we’re here everyday. Not giving up.

If that’s you too, you’re not alone.

My DM is always open. I’ve been trying to find my tribe for a while now.

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