Advice!! Baby, Finance, Housing

Could anyone tell me your opinions on this. My Fiancé and I are 19 and 21. We are about to have our first baby next month and currently live together in a private 3 bed house in SW england, we pay £1000 a month rent. Our monthly bills are £2100 on just our essentials (including rent), which means he is having to pull in a lot of work hours. He also is in a new self employed roll and is having to spend around 2k a month on business expenses so he is having to work 70-80 hours a week. My mum has offered us to move back into my old small bedroom and pay £70 each a week to live in the room, while we build savings since its been so expensive with me not working and we are genuinely beginning to struggle. We will have to give up our freedom, privacy and comfort, in exchange for savings.. my mum is also a heavy smoker and we both dislike the smell of smoke especially around our baby. We also have an indoor cat due to our area who hasnt gotten any shots yet and she lives with her cat. What does everyone think we should do?

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Looking for a best friend who just gets it…

Recently separated, early 30s mom of 2 toddlers. No drama there - we just function better as coparents to our kids. Hoping to meet a friend that might be in a similar position or can offer advice about divorce and coparenting and all the things that come with it…

But also I’m not against married or non-divorced mommas ☺️ I just want someone to be able to chat to about life. Someone I can text when I need them. We can share are joys and woes. Currently my mom is my best friend which is amazing but it can’t last forever 😢 I just need someone who gets it..

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Hi there! I'm Valeria, I'm 30 and have 2 children. I am engaged to my handsome guy who is in the air force. I am currently working full time but come July will transition to a SAHM. I love books, I'm an amazing texter (so if you're the same that would be perfect lol) I like when the conversation flows naturally. We could talk about anything and everything. I love going on walks on new trails, having coffee dates, spending time together with the kids as well as occasionally without. Having book clubs, doing diamond painting. Honestly I do a bit of everything to pass the time since my fiancee has been deployed since last year 😭 I'm very easy going, not judgemental whatsoever, love doing simple things like picnics, picking books at the library together, talk about conspiracies, you name it. So if I sound like your kinda peep feel free to message me so I know you're interested in getting the conversation going :)

I dont want unhealthy friends

Note this does NOT extend to disabled people or people fighting illness/disease.

I mean I dont want friends that smoke, drink excessively, do drugs, are physically unfit by choice or just generally dont take care of themself.

You are who you surround yourself with and I just dont want that around me.

And if you'll say 'i dont want judgemental friends' thats fine but I do not believe wanting people to be healthy is wrong I see it the same as not wanting my friends to be racist.

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How would you feel

So my baby daddy paid for a cruise for 10 ppl but through his sister since she have an account, so the names he gave her was him, me and our 4 year old son and his mom his other sister and her and whom ever els was going. We also have a 1 year old he said we will leave with my mom and I’m currently pregnant and due April 23rd. As he was paying the money to his sister for the cruise I ask him what was the dates he said they didn’t have dates so I was like okay, his sister called back and gave him May 4th-9th so I said I’m bck out because my baby would only be like a week and some days old and ima still be healing so I ask him if it’s possible if we go in June at least I would have been had my six week check up and everything he said she said we can’t change the date so I’m heated because I really wanted to go and for him to leaving me with our 1 year old and a newborn is crazy and when he bring my 4 yr old bck I’m leaving him until he know the family he created is just as important as the one he come frm how do you guys feel about this situation?

Rant needed

Ugh can i just rant for a second about sex… or the lack of🫠

Me and my partner used to have a healthy sex life together before I got pregnant, during pregnancy I was very poorly so it wasn’t a regular thing and then the bump got in the way and suddenly it had been 3 months and I was in labor BUT since having her we only waited 5 weeks after as when I say the horn came back BOY did it come back as soon as I gave birth🤣 I’ve definitely got a higher sex drive than my baby daddy but I just want to feel wanted u know? Yesterday we had a child free evening, couple of drinks down the rugby and yes we were both tired (what parents aren’t with a 4 month old???) butttt he sent me to bed at 8pm and I got nothing🙃 we still kiss and cuddle but I just kind of feel like roommates half the time and routine-like, please tell me I’m not alone in feeling like this…

I think it all comes down to the fact that I have initiated the sex in our relationship for a long time due to having a higher drive and I did speak to him pre pregnancy about this but ladies PLEASE give me some advice / reassurance that I’m not going crazy thinking he doesn’t want me anymore and the kissing and hugs aren’t just routine🙏🏼