Sex?? Advice please!

For context, I'm almost 14-weeks pregnant with our first baby.

I've never felt grosser, my clothes don't fit so I'm living in my pyjamas, & leggings and oversized t-shirts when I have to leave the house. I'm exhausted all the time, my bump isn't bumping quite yet so just looks like I've eaten a really decent meal, & I suffer with acid reflux really badly at night.

My husband wants to have sex, almost every night. I feel awful because before pregnancy, I couldn't keep my hands off him - we just got married last year. He understands when I say no, but there's always a nagging guilty feeling.

It's not that I don't *want* to - my sex drive is through the roof - I just don't feel sexy anymore!

Am I alone, or is this normal?

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Looking for a friend near or far :)

Hi there! I'm Valeria, I'm 30 and have 2 children. I am engaged to my handsome guy who is in the air force. I am currently working full time but come July will transition to a SAHM. I love books, I'm an amazing texter (so if you're the same that would be perfect lol) I like when the conversation flows naturally. We could talk about anything and everything. I love going on walks on new trails, having coffee dates, spending time together with the kids as well as occasionally without. Having book clubs, doing diamond painting. Honestly I do a bit of everything to pass the time since my fiancee has been deployed since last year 😭 I'm very easy going, not judgemental whatsoever, love doing simple things like picnics, picking books at the library together, talk about conspiracies, you name it. So if I sound like your kinda peep feel free to message me so I know you're interested in getting the conversation going :)

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I dont want unhealthy friends

Note this does NOT extend to disabled people or people fighting illness/disease.

I mean I dont want friends that smoke, drink excessively, do drugs, are physically unfit by choice or just generally dont take care of themself.

You are who you surround yourself with and I just dont want that around me.

And if you'll say 'i dont want judgemental friends' thats fine but I do not believe wanting people to be healthy is wrong I see it the same as not wanting my friends to be racist.

Your values matter

How would you feel

So my baby daddy paid for a cruise for 10 ppl but through his sister since she have an account, so the names he gave her was him, me and our 4 year old son and his mom his other sister and her and whom ever els was going. We also have a 1 year old he said we will leave with my mom and I’m currently pregnant and due April 23rd. As he was paying the money to his sister for the cruise I ask him what was the dates he said they didn’t have dates so I was like okay, his sister called back and gave him May 4th-9th so I said I’m bck out because my baby would only be like a week and some days old and ima still be healing so I ask him if it’s possible if we go in June at least I would have been had my six week check up and everything he said she said we can’t change the date so I’m heated because I really wanted to go and for him to leaving me with our 1 year old and a newborn is crazy and when he bring my 4 yr old bck I’m leaving him until he know the family he created is just as important as the one he come frm how do you guys feel about this situation?

Looking for a female friend for fun

I’ve been asking my husband that we should try to have 3 some with another girl to spice it up our relationship. He didn’t say NO but he never said anything ( may be he’s too shy 😅). Now we have a year old baby and I’ve asked him again, he said me to find a girl who’s okay with it . (cause I want to try with another girl🙈). Here is the thing how do I find a women ? Like which app should I use ? Or anyone interested??? I’m in London

Are my feelings valid?

So I wonder if this is a generational thing (I’m late 30s) or if it’s a cultural thing (I’m British) but I find it so idiotic and patronising if someone says “your feelings are valid”.

I feel like anyone who says that to me is a knob jockey who lacks the maturity to have a real conversation without empty platitudes.

AITA?