Help support partner in the newborn phase with noise sensitivity and lack of structure

If anyone has sensitivity to sound and stress please can you advise on what helped you through the newborn phase

Hi, I’m not sure how to word this or if this is the right group.

My partner hasn’t been diagnosed with autism however has lots of the traits and experiences associated so thought this maybe a good place to ask for support. He is very sensitive to sound and has a very short stress response to the crying ( this shows as depressive and exhaustion stress and drained of energy, emotional etc)with other things he can get angry/ frustrated when overwhelmed. He is not enjoying the unpredictability of a baby and the lack of structure and presence of noise is really getting to him, it sees like he’s being very hard and critical of himself too which makes me really sad as he’s doing amazing

Our much loved and anticipated baby girl joined our family last Sunday and my partner is the most wonderful caring and doting daddy you could hope for.

Since the first night the baby crying really causing my husband a lot of stress and anxiety and emotion in himself. We are getting decent sleep ( though be it broken sleep)
Baby does cry when wanting a feed and having a poo but generally would say it’s the same as your average newborn, I personally thought she didn’t cry much at all honestly

but tonight my husband said he’s really struggling and is trying his best. I keep reassuring him he’s doing amazing because he really is. Nothing is too much and he just wants to hold and love her, always checking in on her and me and is just perfect really.

I can tell he’s feeling stressed and disappointed in how he’s feeling and I would like to know how I can support him.

As I’m feeling very well I said I am happy to handle to tears for now and take that responsibility as it doesn’t actually bother me

I mentioned headphones/ earplugs but he feels like that’s not an answer. The first few nights he did wear ear defenders he uses for his job in construction when changing her nappy if she was crying

Thanks in advance x

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