Leaving for 3 months..

Hello ladies, I just need some more advice in three days I’ll be leaving back to my hometown Chicago Illinois and the plan is to go to school down there with my aunt through her program to be a pharmacy tech and my baby daddy mother said she could watch my child well focus on my studies but I feel somewhat hesitant because it’s my first time leaving him for a long time and I’m having second thoughts as if I want to take him with me because me and the baby daddy have been having problems here and there I know the mom has nothing to do with it but at the same time I don’t know it’s like I’m getting thoughts of I should just bring him with me. What do you all think I should take my baby with me or leave him with his grandma’s? Let me know. It’s very conflicting for me because I know at the same time. Nobody takes care of their baby like you do.

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Take him xx

School program is tough. It's already a lot as a single person, having a kid makes it tougher. Especially with a toddler who still needs active care.
Do you have anyone to help once in a while when in school? Is he not in nursery yet? Can you really manage with him for that period and get all the knowledge you need?

Is baby daddy living with grandma? If he's not, and you don't see him getting in the way of your child, like maybe fighting you when you come back for him, then leave him.

If you really feel you wan to take him, but the offer to leave him with grandma is still open, go with him and see how you manage for like a week. If it isn't working, bring him back to grandma.
School you are going is for your benefit and his. He will thank you later and you will be grateful you took the opportunity to focus and grab all you can before coming back. 3 months isn't all that long to begin with. He will be fine 😁

Take your son

Take him! Your mama's gut is telling you something, so trust it.

Yes of course ensure that you have someone to watch him while you go to school and projects — but take him. You'll never regret trusting yourself in this area.

I would not be able to rest for 3 days let alone 3 months without him, so I would take him

in our community

Anyone else’s partner or maybe even yourself, not able to be home in time to have a family dinner every night? Where every member of the family is sitting at the table.

This is not a post of judgement. With our 24 hour world right now, access to emails, programs, etc. running at all times of the day, just curious if anyone truly has this as their daily normal. If so, I’m envious!

Looking for my BFF

Hey!! Anyone in the 757 wanna text! Definitely in need of some friends! ❤️🥺

Can’t get over how MIL acted postpartum

Recently back in contact with MIL after about 6 months of NC.

Since having our baby, MIL has repeatedly violated boundaries around the birth, postpartum period, and our no-kissing rule when she has hsv-1. Things escalated to the point where she showed up uninvited daily the first 2 weeks PP, made snappy rude remarks to me, made hurtful comments about my body and parenting, kissed LO multiple times after being told not to, and ultimately had a 30 minute emotional outburst where she told me LO was “her baby” more than mine and she loves her more and I wouldn’t understand because I’m not a grandmother, then physically intimidated me while the now ex and his father stood by and just watched. Leading me to cut contact for 6 months.

During that time she and her family constantly pressured my now ex, to leave me and also to just bring my baby to them, said a lot of negative stuff about me and cried on repeat every time he saw them. After a December apology and a seemingly successful visit in March, she demanded another visit just 3 days later and when I said no we will organise something in a few weeks, she pushed back demanding justification.

I can’t get over everything she did. She’s still her entitled demanding self and seeing her interact with my child makes me feel sick. We have another visit this weekend and I’m just so anxious about it.

Anybody else had issues like this? What do you do?

Should I Stay or Leave?

Hey Ladies, my husband and I have been married for 2 years and we have a 17 months old together. He does not help with the bay at all, he works and pay all the bill while I care for our child and go to school. I recently found that he’s been cheating with multiple women, he lies he cheat he sleep in the other room most of the time. I’ve voiced out many times that I feel like we’re just roommate and I’m not fulfilled emotionally but he keeps pulling away. I want my son to have a sibling to play and grow up with but I’m conflicted because I know long term if he doesn’t change we’re not gonna work out. So should I still have the second baby at least I know I’m done having kids and my son has a sibling or should I stay until u get my stuff in order then leave?