selfish bd
my bd is on supervised visits due to things found out whilst pregnant and his behaviour with her now isn’t a safe parent. he does things that are unsafe for example she can climb the stairs and he sat at the top waiting for her to come up i had to tell him to go behind her since she can’t get down them yet or he goes in the garden leaves the door wide open and when she follows him he doesn’t look back and help her , i have to get up and help her. she’s only 10 months old.
recently i went through cms since he wouldn’t pay after i keep asking. he now has decided he wants more time with her and will give me half of what cms has decided. however when he brought the idea to me about seeing her more, i ask how would it work since he works full time and the two days he has off he sees her. he had no plan so i had to set one and agreed to one morning before work.
yesterday he comes and said he wants overnights with her on the weekend. i’ve declined because she’s breastfed, we cosleep and she doesn’t settle in his house well even when im there. he hasn’t shown that he thinks about her AT ALL. it’s all about him and what he wants but he doesn’t think realistically about it.
he hasn’t even had for alone for a few hours since he doesn’t care about her safety like i do. when i replied saying no and telling him why. etc the actions he’s shown me, the fact she’s breastfed and we cosleep and she’s still young he just started sulking.
he also kept pulling her away from me yesterday. we was at the park and i was sitting on the bench letting her walk around and him bond with her but everytime she came near me or wanted to come over he would pick her up and drag her away to the point she was getting frustrated and i had to grab her and just say we are going home it’s time for a nap.
he doesn’t follow her cues like he will grab her and she’s pushing off because she wants to practice walking and she likes to explore and he just won’t put her down even when she cries. it’s like he doesn’t listen to her he just wants to do what he wants to force bonding but i’ve told him that won’t work. you can’t force a baby to be held if she wants to explore you follow her cues.
atp it feels like he does stuff on purpose that he knows isn’t right just to annoy me because it’s the same problems over and over.
