Changing the midwife or not?
Hello!
I am having my 1st baby, so of course i don't have much experience with midwives and i don't know what's ok and what's not.
My current midwife is on holiday and i had 2 appointments with another midwife and i noticed a few inconsistencies in behaviour.
1st (probably not very important) my midwife (L) would not note anything down in my booklet. I thought i was supposed to do it, but i was being lazy and didn't fill anything in and midwife S was a bit surprised that it's empty, and the said that midwives normally do it.
2nd - on my 1st appt with S she measured my belly. And she said how i am now within parameters because on my last appt i was under. Which was weird fort me as i could not, for the love of god, remember L measuring my belly. I would remember something like that. So to me it looked like she just put a number there to make it look like she did. I didn't say anything, just thought maybe i completely forgot this happening..
3rd- L wouldn't even try, on my 1st appt to take blood from me, just straight off sent me to the hospital because i seemed to have difficult veins... S managed to do it straight away, and i didn't even know she was going to do it, and i didn't have enough water to make it easy for her, but managed anyway. Twice.
4th- on my 2nd appt i let L know that i found out my dad has diabetes, recently diagnosed. Mentioned it as i thought might be relevant but she didn't say anything ab it. And on my last app with S, i told her how i had a private scan (just bc i wanted to see the baby in 4d) and the person said that the baby seems a bit on the big size and he would recommend testing for GD. S said that they don't normally test for gd just bc a private scan said so. And asked ab my history, and referred me for a glucose test just because of my father having diabetes. And told her how i told L ab it, but apparently there is no note of this. And this test is done between 24-28 weeks and i am 31. It might be nothing, but it just doesn't feel right.
So now i feel a bit weird ab L. Feels like she is missing stuff. Now i don't know if she always told me everything she should. I don't know if i missed out on stuff.
Would you voice these concerns and chage the midwife?
Or am i exaggerating and should turn a blind eye?
Also - this is something i wouldn't know - is the midwife that you sew on these appointments the same midwife you'll have with you during birth? Because knowing that she is not on top of things during the appointments, would make me quite uncomfortable during the birth.
But if i would have a different midwife during the birth, then i might aswell turn a blind eye as i only have a few appointments left with her until the birth.
What do you think?
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