I'm at a loss and not sure what to do my husband and I have been together for 12 years and 3 years married however my love for him and connection is fading his true colours really showed during my pregnancy when he wasn't there for me when I needed support and only came to one appointment with me since the arrival of our daughter he hasn't really stepped up to the dad role is always working late which he chooses too and really only helps on weekends. He barely even knows her ques and what she needs or wants and she is already 8 months old. I'm so lost on what to do and yes I have been talking to a counselor about these issues just good to hear others opinions
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We have to chose our hard. Try to reconnect if that’s what you want. Or start over by yourself. Both will take time and discomfort.

What’s his reaction when this is brought up to him as an issue?
I feel like 12 years is a very long time to “hide your true self”. But having a baby changes everything too. Maybe he’s hiding at work? (Not saying it’s okay, just maybe him trying to cope on his own)

Im going through this too if you want to message me !