Sex became a task for me

Ever since I got pregnant until now, baby is 18 months old, I totally lost my sex drive. It’s become a task for me that I still have to fulfill at the end of the day. We probably do it like 2-3 times per week. My husband wants me on top and not only do I dislike doing it, I also just don’t have the strength for it anymore. Physically and mentally.

I feel sorry for him because he’s doing so much for the family but it just feels like a burden to me. Today I kind of snapped when he wanted me on top again and I told him how I’m doing this for him and that it’s a task for me and I’d rather just go to bed or watch tv. Of course he got turned off, sad, disappointed and feels unloved and unwanted.

I really don’t know what to do. We don’t have a village, it’s just us. We’re rocking this thing but it’s taking its toll on me.
I don’t want to ruin our marriage through this but I also can’t just fake it anymore.

What can I do to enjoy this more again?

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Do you think trans children grow out of being trans?

Someone close to me has a child that came out as trans. They are waiting to tell others in the family this "just in case" their child changes their mind or grows out of it. In my experience I came out twice, the first time at a young age and was repeatedly dismissed that it was a phase and was told not to tell others in the family, I went back into the closet, the second time I was much older and felt I had wasted my twenties after letting family gaslight me into thinking they knew me better than I knew myself. That's just me, I know others who thought they were trans and later realized they weren't, but I want to know how common do parents think it is for their child to not actually be trans after coming out.

*I will report any transphobic or hateful comments, you can make your point without being impolite. This isn't a debate on everything transgender, only about if parents believe their children when they come out or if they have doubts.

Where my girls attttttt

I’m looking for the mommas that want someone to check up on them almost everyday. And I’m currently feeling like linking up soooo wya?

Debating on seperation

I'm at a loss and not sure what to do my husband and I have been together for 12 years and 3 years married however my love for him and connection is fading his true colours really showed during my pregnancy when he wasn't there for me when I needed support and only came to one appointment with me since the arrival of our daughter he hasn't really stepped up to the dad role is always working late which he chooses too and really only helps on weekends. He barely even knows her ques and what she needs or wants and she is already 8 months old. I'm so lost on what to do and yes I have been talking to a counselor about these issues just good to hear others opinions

Pls help x

Hey Mamas right, nothing to do with baby lool.

So usually my husband initiates sex and everything. Before pregnancy I used to initiate as well, but during pregnancy and after, I honestly don’t feel like it 😭. Even during pregnancy when we did have sex, I just didn’t enjoy it at all — I kept thinking about the baby etc. I’m now 2 months postpartum and definitely don’t want another baby anytime soon ofc lool.

But ladies… recently I’ve been thinking of ways to make sex more enjoyable again. How do I actually make sex enjoyable? Do you use sex toys? are you against them? Please feel free to share, I’m genuinely just curious!! Any tips would be greatly appreciated! x

Am I right?

My boyfriend took our baby to see one of his friends who is a girl but he didn’t tell me and I found out myself.. it’s not the fact he took the baby to see her it’s the fact he hasn’t told me?
We haven’t been getting on for a while and he seems to be being disrespectful a lot lately

Lost of friends as u get older

This picture is really my life but the couple friends I have (that I physically see the most) don’t have any children, and it’s really hard to either not get upset with them or to understand them. One of my friends, I considered a best friend, she’s actually my oldest child’s god mom…but lately her actions really disappointed me, and I’m starting to think I need to detach myself from her and just be more of a friend. And then another one I kind of just met her like 5 years ago, and the more I hang out with her the more I realize she’s just different. None of the girls have bad traits, but it just seems so hard for them to relate to me or me to relate to them because they don’t have children. For example being out with them WITH my kids which they love but it’s like they’re just not idk reliable, I’m not saying they’re responsible for my kids but just be present and meaningful I guess
Like one time the best friend said she was coming to see us, texted all day about doing this and that and she’ll be there but then texted last minute saying she not gonna come, so I was upset but I let it go then one of my boys had a competition and she didn’t show up even after saying she will. She know I don’t have a village and it means so much to me for the little bit of people in my (our) life to show up especially when said. My other friend however showed up but all she did was text or be on her phone the whole time. I really had to sit back and reflect on myself thinking maybe it’s just me that’s upset and not giving them the consideration that they just don’t get it because they don’t have kids of their own

Am I wrong?
do I need to just let the friends be friends and learn to not ask them or tell them about future plans… it’s hard making and keeping good friends now 😩😕