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Baby Daddy Drama

I’m currently 7 months pregnant. Just to give some background information, I’m not in the best point in my life, I’m 26 with no job, no working car and still living at home. Despite my personal setbacks I have a lot of support from my

Family. My baby’s father hasn’t been involved with the pregnancy. He never shows up to anything (appointments, gender reveal, baby shower etc.) and hasn’t checked up on me for a while. At first he would message me every other day sometimes week to check in. He stopped when I was around 4 months. Despite him not checking in, I give him and his mother updates every so often. I recently gave them both a 30 week update. He never responded but his mother told me that he wants a dna test and that he doesn’t want to be a father. He has never denied that it was his baby, this is the first time I’m hearing anything about this and he told me from the beginning that it was my choice and he’ll be there for me in whatever I chose. A day goes by I asked his mother if she knows how I can get in touch with him to discuss everything and I was told that he refuses to talk to me because I blocked him ( which I did, I’ve blocked him twice in my whole pregnancy. It was in the early months of my pregnancy. We would argue and I would block him for a few days) and because I left him stranded at work (this happened before I found out I was pregnant). I asked the mom how were we supposed to go forward with the dna test if he refuses to talk to me. She said she doesn’t know what to tell me and to keep her out of it. Now I’m debating whether or not I should put him on child support. He’s 100% the father and I’m pretty sure he knows that. It’s just I don’t know if it’s worth it. All I want is for him to know that it’s his baby and to stop running away from his responsibilities. I want him to have some type of obligation to our son. I also think it’s crazy how he went from “you’re keeping the baby away from me” “I’m not like my dad, I take care of my kids” to not wanting to communicate and denying our son. And again he has never expressed any of this to me. My mom says not to go through with it because family court is a hassle and if he wants to run away from being a father let him. I just don’t think it’s fair to our son. Our son deserves to have two parents and deserves to know who his father is (even if he’s not the best). I don’t want my son growing up feeling like he wasn’t enough.