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To keep or not to keep

Hi guys seeking advice from anyone who’s been in a similar situation. Just recently found out I am pregnant to my ex who I have been on and off with for 8 years. Prior to this we were hanging out every weekend per normal and even talking about getting back together. After I found out I’m pregnant the drama with him started. He says he is not ready for the baby and it would ruin what’s going on in his life. (Men…) Due to a previous miscarriage of mine I’m scared of letting it go and an abortion is the last thing I want. Not sure what to do but I feel alone and scared because it has been a few weeks and although he is checking up on me he still is saying he isn’t ready for a baby

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If you are ready for a baby I say go for it but don’t expect anything or much from him.

Do you have a supportive family or friends that will be around to help if you need?

from a single mum, you don’t need a man and your baby doesn’t need a dad to be happy. to be honest the fact that he’s being honest and telling you from the get go that he isn’t ready is a good thing. it’s better to hear it now rather than later. it’s so daunting when pregnant, but once baby is here the road gets brighter. hope you’re okay xxx

unpopular opinion but honestly I’d never keep a child when the father does not want them. he’s basically telling you he’s not going to be involved and is going to make it as hard as possible for you. I’d also leave him after that. having an abortion would hurt like HELL but i’d rather feel the pain of what could’ve been rather than struggling with a man who is emotionally unavailable and cannot commit to being with me and our child. yes you have to deal with them for 18 years for the sake of your child but weddings, milestone etc you’ll have to be around them and that would piss me off having to see them for the rest of my life ngl.

Your feelings are valid, I understand your position. having a baby is such a privilege but also a big responsibility! I know you got this, your baby will bring so much joy and his or her life is so precious! You will regret killing your unborn baby and resent your boyfriend for pressuring you. But don’t loose hope, you got this! With or without him. It definitely scary at first but it will be an amazing journey. Sending you so much love ❤️

idk what you want BUT if you feel as though you’re ready for single parenthood , go for it. that man won’t be involved if at all , you do realize this ? you will have to raise your kid w out him. if you are willing to do this by yourself then why not ? i just strongly suggest that if you’re gon try to get him to be a father or help out in any way , shape or form , you should just abort

Have your precious baby for you! Give baby your last name and love that baby with unconditional love. The baby is a blessing especially since you mentioned having a miscarriage before. Don’t let a man’s actions determine your decision. Feel free to DM me if you want to talk.

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