How!?

How are people getting out and about, to groups, to the shop. Little one is 7 months old, weaning but also breastfed. I am a living zombie. They feed minimum 5 times per night with cluster feeding towards morning. I am dead on my feet. Zero energy for most other things and I am pushing myself to my absolute limits. I have another child who is older but lack of trusted family support. How do people actually put make up on brush hair and go out? I feel like I am barely living.

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.
Add a comment
Avatar

Make up? Whats that? 😂 I don't bother. If someone doesn’t like my face, thats their problem, not mine

Avatar

My little one is 13 months I struggled to, I managed to get him to sleep in his cot for the start of the night that really helped me, we co sleep once he's woke up from the cot tho, when I didn't my hair id use his jumperroo or put him in a carrier and stand at my mirror, not sure if that could work for you, also if your weening you could try letting bub self feed a snack while you're getting ready xx

Avatar

Hey, honestly, I think everyone’s experience is so different and some stages are just pure survival mode ❤️ I was out with my little one from 3 weeks old, even if it was only short walks round the area for a change of scenery for us both. I think having a spring/summer baby helped too.

I signed up for lots of free groups so we had something to do daily during the week — baby groups, library singalongs, baby massage, swimming and weirdly having somewhere to be helped me keep a routine at home too, it gave us both structure. I knew he would want a nap by time we got home from all the stimulation so that was my 3 hours to clean, cook, do some self care ( paint my nails/ have a bath, binge netflix) 2 hours out made a big difference mentally for me, as i meet mums who also had 3-6 weeks old so we met up often.

But honestly… if you’re up 5+ times a night, feeding, weaning and managing another child with little support, you’re doing a LOT. Some days getting everyone fed and dressed is enough ❤️

Read more on Peanut

Trending

in our community

How!?

How are people getting out and about, to groups, to the shop. Little one is 7 months old, weaning but also breastfed. I am a living zombie. They feed minimum 5 times per night with cluster feeding towards morning. I am dead on my feet. Zero energy for most other things and I am pushing myself to my absolute limits. I have another child who is older but lack of trusted family support. How do people actually put make up on brush hair and go out? I feel like I am barely living.

Avatar

3

Dating and the guy wants to come over 🫢😂 HELP! So I share a 1 bedroom w/ my son and my new boo of 11 weeks has hinted at wanting to come over we go out weekly and have since I met him almost each week I can only hang out on weekends…

So anyway I hate my place I don’t like having people over bc of it and I’m afraid of being judged .. but I guess if he judges and leaves then he’s just not it ? Our apartment is super humble ! Window air conditioning units old floor heaters idk I’m just feeling self conscious so I was able to hold on to not having him over bc we hadn’t been intimate yet but we were this past weekend so now it just seems like why can’t he come lol am I tripping ? I want to be moved into a 2 bedroom by the holiday season this yr will start looking next month after I get a few things straightened out idk why I feel I have to be perfect but I do I’m 35 and he is 46 I’ve made bad choices and am picking up pieces and his life is very together! What do you ladies think am I tripping or would you be waiting to date ? I don’t want to miss out on the connection we have

Avatar

8

What do i do?

Husband finally told me what was wrong after telling me he was fine the last few days while being short and not really talking to me at all. He said he’s sick of the house being a disaster and that he can get stuff done while watching our son so why can’t I. He said sometimes you’ll just have to listen to him scream which I cannot do. I am a SAHM to our one year old son(it was his birthday today). I have tried to explain that our son is more clingy with me and it is next to impossible to get everything done when it’s just the two of us. He said no one can help me until I help myself. He doesn’t like that I ask for help and don’t like going places with our son without having another person go with us. Our son is very high energy and so it makes going to the store alone with him very difficult. My husband also complained about how I never go to bed with him because I say i have stuff to do first. I am the one who puts our son to bed every night while my husband usually showers or sits on the couch on his phone. Then after our son goes to bed if I had time to cook dinner before then we eat if not I then cook dinner. After we eat I then have to pack up the food and my husband’s lunch for work, do the dishes, wash the bottles, prep bottles for morning, pick up toys, and fold the laundry I managed to do that day. I have tried to tell him that if he could do even a couple of those things for me then I would probably be able to go to bed with him but he doesn’t. He ended the conversation by saying he was done and he doesn’t care anymore. He will just stop expecting me to do anything but keep our kid alive while he’s at work and then he went to bed. What do i do? Idk how to respond to any of this or how to act now. I will fully admit that I am not the best at keeping a clean house. It’s messy but we are also still remodeling and don’t have upper cabinets in the kitchen for instance so there is no storage and everything ends up cluttered. I just don’t know what to do anymore.

Avatar

1

8

How would you feel if your mom told you that your uncle, his wife, your cousin mention they want to help you but they don’t know how since your so difficult- but they never offered or said it to you directly ?

I got upset cus I’m like these people never ever offered help and their just gossiping abt how I’m difficult. I did ask my cousin to babysit one time recently and she said my daughter behaved good but she didn’t say let me know if you ever need help again.

Avatar

9

Am I the problem or is she a problem?

I think I have to fight my son, father mother so basically I asked his sister can she ask her mother? Can I get the car seat? This was the message that I received from My Baby Daddy Mother and I’m a show the rest at the bottom

Avatar

1

22

Mother in Law

My mother in law disrespected me big time. Now she doesn’t get to see my son and my partner respect my wishes. Should I feel bad? I’ve tried to mend the bridge but at every turn she digs another hole. It’s so ackward at family events and I barely go and my son doesn’t attend either. I’m open to dialogue. I’ve given her so many chances but she keep burning the bridge then act clueless when I don’t come around with my son. She goes to the extreme to embarrass me or to cause me harm.

Avatar

4

Read more on Peanut