Should I leave him?
I met my partner a couple of years ago, we had our ups and downs but generally our relationship was quite positive. Last year we decided to start a family. This was a joint decision. There was no pressure on his side about 6 months before we started trying. We had a conversation and I said there's no pressure. Just let me know when you're ready. And 6 months later he told me he wanted to start trying for a family. Everything was okay at first when I conceived but then problems started. I was very unwell in pregnancy and he didn't look after me. He would always try to send me off to my mom's and he sometimes left me ill in bed whilst he was gaming. He used to make comments to me about it not being the pregnancy he expected and that maybe he wouldn't have had a family if he'd have known how difficult it was going to be. Which I found quite hurtful given I was going through a difficult pregnancy. Once we had the baby things became worse. He had a breakdown the day that my son was born. Rather than helping me he sat in a corner crying watching me basically ripping myself trying to pick up my son and feed him whilst carrying around my own urine bag. I found this really hard because the first few weeks I had to be a solo parent despite having a C-section which was really hard. Despite all of this I tried to forgive but when our son was 5 months old I found out that he had been flirting and sending messages on Snapchat to a girl that he was working with. I saw messages where they were asking each other if they were tempted and making jokes about ending up for each other's houses if they went on to a do together. Also I feel conscious about my body and he's telling her he liked the pictures he'd seen and would like to see more if he could. Meanwhile, I'm sat at home caring for his baby. He even had the audacity to talk about this girl in front of me at dinner one day before I knew and told me she was a lovely person who was looking for someone like him. He still tells me now that it was only banter but he wouldn't have been happy if I'd would have done it and they're still working together now.
Do you think I should leave? I don't think this is a healthy relationship, I don't feel valued and all he cares about is gaming.
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Leave now! You’re worth more than that, and I think you know deep down you deserve better.
You had me at leaving you I’ll while he was gaming. I don’t see it as a healthy relationship.
Girly leave this is not it I understand it’s had take a baby steps and start putting urself first and learn to love yourself more and u will see it will be easier for u to leave him I hope you ok and you baby is well 🫶🏾
What an absolute Arse ! He sounds like a waste of space … you can clearly do better ! However, I think it’s something you need to really think about as being a Single Mum isn’t easy ( so I’ve been told )
Maybe talk to him & see what he says ? But talking about another woman to you when he’s been flirting with her behind your back is just to be quite Franck very disrespectful and you deserve better than that !
I do think you should leave but it doesn’t have to be straight away. Get your ducks in line and save up some cash (actual cash) but don’t tell him x
All I know is a woman will never forget how she was treated while she was pregnant or when she was postpartum. It’s the most vulnerable time in a woman’s life and he’s totally let you down, hasn’t he? I’m so sorry 😞
100% leave! He seems like a child not a man and a man is what you DESERVE
I agree with a comment above, try and get a few things in order and then leave whether that's getting some pennies set aside without him knowing or it's whether you speak to your family and let them know how you're feeling and what's happening. You might find they want you to stay with them and you'll have that village you DESERVE ❤️
The one thing I've seen occasionally other mums go through is the partner using the woman's hormones against them and manipulating them so they believe that their mind is making it out to be worse then it is or that it's just a "joke".
Don't let anyone manipulate you lovely or make you feel less then you DESERVE ❤️
If you're bringing up your little one on your own anyway, then leave! You need to put your needs and the baby's needs first. Really doesnt sound like he deserves to even breathe the same air as you! You deserve so much more!
My little ones sperm donor as I call him, said he was not interested when I told him I was pregnwnt so I done pregnancy, birth and life so far on my own with my baby boy.
Best thing I ever done! I feel so content in my life with just the two of us and actually feel proud of myself for the first time in a long time!
Always happy to chat/rant if you want to drop me a message. Take care 🥰
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