Baby dad

Hi all anyone going though some shit with the baby dad don't know what to do and has no one to talk about things im going though so bits that would love to have a chat about.

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Paternity

I had two partners and my baby father believes it’s not his baby. I had protected sex with the one on the 4th and the 16th. And unprotected sex with the second one on the 11th but he swears he “pulled out”. I know he’s the dad because what??? But he’s making me doubt it. And I tested positive on the 27th. Can you guys just tell me I’m not crazy or wrong😂

The loneliness of being the only mum in the group

Does anyone else feel like becoming a mum has made you an outsider in your own friend group?

I love my friends, but I’m the only mum among them. Lately it’s been quietly exhausting, I’m always the one who has to ask for the plan to change. “Can we meet somewhere a bit closer? Or even in the middle? Can we meet earlier because I can’t do dinners right now? Can we meet somewhere I can take the baby?” Every single time, it falls on me to raise it, because no one else has to think about it. While I understand that it’s hard to think about someone’s circumstances when you haven’t experienced them, is it wrong for me to expect a little more consideration?

This weekend it was a suggested meet up over an hour and twenty minutes away. Before my daughter, I wouldn’t have batted an eye at, but now I have to think about how fast I can get back if she needs me. I just sat there wondering, am I overreacting or have I just become an afterthought?

The loneliness of being the only mum in a group is so specific and so hard to explain, especially to my friends who are in completely different chapter of their lives. You’re surrounded by people who love you, and still feel completely unseen.

Anyone else navigating this?

:/

Im realizing more and more how I don’t have a “village” how I’m really doing this alone with my fiancé but even then he goes to work daily and I’m home alone with no one. I currently need to go to the hospital because there may be a blood clot in my leg and no one can help with my girls and they’re sick so it makes it difficult.
Just knowing I don’t have a support system outside of my fiancé really just sucks. It makes me so sad.

Emotionally unintelligent men

How do you stay married to them?

We didn’t start this way I swear.

How do you cope in the marriage? Do you find somewhere else to confide in emotionally?

I hope this doesn’t sound as dumb as I think

I’m starting to think the reason I don’t have any friends or a community is just because people are jealous. I know this sounds really stuck up and kind of air headed but I really think this could be it. Most people don’t show me any warmth it feels like even if I’m trying to be friendly and join a conversation they all just stare at me and look me up and down and look at each other like I’m making them uncomfortable, of course this makes me uncomfortable so I just walk away. And I can hear them laughing as soon as I do. This used to really get to me and hurt my feelings mainly because it made no sense. I’m not saying I’m beautiful by any means but I think people just might see things that they want and weirdly exclude me from things because of it. Does anyone else have this experience? like you know you’re not mean, and youre socially competent, but still feel like a freak that doesn’t belong

Being a sahm

How does everyone cope with being a sahm I am considering becoming one as I’m so done with work I’m about to go on maternity leave for the second time.

Little context I went on maternity with my first and absolutely loved being home with my little one then went back to work 3 days a week when first was 8months old and felt like I was missing out on a lot but luckily I got to see my first do all his first I’m glad for that, now I’ve switched jobs and they don’t allow hours change so would have to go back to doing the same hours as before maternity leave but this second time round feel like I’m gonna miss out as my job don’t allow hours changes so feel like I’m gonna miss more this time round.

My partner has said he would support me if I do decide to become a sahm but I’ve always said to myself that I don’t wanna rely on anyone but lately I feel like I might have to change my mind on relying on someone else, he also said he would change his job to make sure we have enough money to support my choice.

Could you let me know how you cope and why you choose to be a sahm I need positive and negative feedback for this please.

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