Baby dad not pulling weight

Hi,
Just wondering if anyone else is the same!
If i am struggling with anything at all the thing that is being thrown back at me is ‘Well your off work for 9 months and i’m working’ This reason is being used an excuse to not do anything , cooking cleaning feeding the baby, it is a big deal if he changes a nappy, I feel like a single mum in a relationship 🥲

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Picky eater

Can someone please give a mama some advice my son landon hes a year & 6 months and hes a very picky eater. Wont eat meat and hardly eats other food :(((

I'm really struggling 🥹

I feel so ungrateful. I've wanted my baby for so long. He's my quadruple rainbow 🌈. I have an 11 year old but I don't remember things ever being like this with him.
My 7 month old has recently started crying and screaming over everything. Hungry Screams. Tired Screams. In the pram Screams. He used to sleep in good stretches and now he wakes up every few hours screaming. There's been days I've tried calpol when it's been really bad because I can only assume it's pain. But it doesn't make a difference. I'm really struggling with the lack of sleep and the constant headaches from his crying. My Husband is amazing but we're both struggling at this point. I'm just not enjoying being his Mum anymore 😭😭

HELP with boundaries from grandparents!!

Hey guys, I could really use some advice. My mum has done so much for me and my husband since our first baby was born. I’m an only child, and she’s been incredibly generous – she’s bought our little boy so many things, helped us financially, and during those first three months she was coming over almost every day or every other day. At the beginning, I genuinely needed and appreciated the help. She’d help with the housework or have my baby boy so I could catch up on some sleep.

Now that we’ve settled into more of a routine, I don’t need as much help as I did before. I’ve realised that I really enjoy the couple of hours I get to spend with just me and my baby boy while my husband is working from home and then out at his evening job. I want to enjoy that one-on-one time with him and build our own little routine as a family.

The difficult part is that my mum is also going through a lot at the moment. Her husband (not my dad) has an incurable brain tumour, so I know having us and her grandson around brings her comfort and happiness. Because of that, I feel even more guilty about wanting a bit more space and independence.

I don’t know how to tell her without upsetting her. I know everything she’s done has come from a place of love, and I’m so grateful for all of her support. But I can also see that my husband is starting to get a bit frustrated with how often she comes round. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you set boundaries kindly without hurting your mum’s feelings?

Do you consider SAHM a job?

Got into an argument with my partner because I’ve been having a rough week. I was venting about my hard day and being frustrated that I never get a break. My partner has been working out of town for the past two months and it’s been extremely hard being alone for so long. He comes back on the weekends but the weekends go by so fast. I was ok at first but the loneliness is getting to me. I was just venting my frustration when he told me I should be blessed about staying home which I very much am but anyway. He said I need to change my mentality and be more positive. Just made me feel like shit like I’m not allowed to have bad days and I’m not allowed to vent just because I’m blessed to have this wonderful life. Makes me feel bad for struggling like I’m weak and incapable of staying home. Anyway he was saying being a stay at home mom is not a job but a lifestyle and I should be grateful and not complain. But I think a stay at home mom is a job just in a different way. Do you consider a stay at home mom a job?

How are we disciplining out of control 3 almost 4 year olds?!

I am at my wits end. He doesn’t listen. He just made me look like a fool in the middle of the grocery store. Sometimes I literally have no idea what to do because NOTHING works. Help.

Overwhelmed and exhausted

I feel like crying. I just went back to work a few days ago. I was off today and my husband came hone from work and said he needed me to do laundry. I was hoping when he got home I could stretch while he looked after the baby. Instead,he took a shower, ran to the grocery store, Came back and stretched. I have been bf and pumping every few hours all day. I have a stock pile of milk in the freezer but I'm trying not to use it if I'm home. I have 2 bottles in the fridge but she seems to be eating more now so they aren't enough.i don't want to do formula but my boobs are killing me and I just want to take a shower. He brought home fruit earlier and he said he wants to take some to work tomorrow. So here I am trying to get her to sleep then I have to wash the dishes I need for the morning because I make him breakfast and I have to cut up the fruit for him. He went to bed. Ill be up at least twice to feed the baby. I'm exhausted and frustrated. 🥺