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Am I the a**hole?

So our baby is 8 months old, not a great sleeper but I'm not used to waking up every hour/2 hours ever night 😭😂
Basically partner works Monday -Friday 9-3:30 which I understand is still draining, my partner doesn't have to wake up for anything at night as I breastfeed so it's just me that baby will settle for at the moment (I sleep in the same room as baby )
As I don't get much time to myself day or night as baby goes to bed around 6:30pm and I stay with her for the night, sometimes on the weekend I just want an hour or 2 just to relax but my partner says "well I haven't had any time to myself"
But they have from 6:30 until they go to sleep every night plus uninterrupted sleep?!
Am I the a hole for wanting a little time to myself?

Hair cut

I have all four boys and they only got there first hair cut at age 1. I’m determined for my last LO to do the same but all the comments I get from family are rude. But I’m standing my ground. With that being said when did you do the first hair cut. Picture attached for tax.

Stranger touched my newborns hand

I was out for a coffee today and an old lady touched my 4 week old baby's hand. I know she was well intentioned & I belive she had a learning disability, but I've been completely freaking out since getting home.

I used wet wipes on his hands when I was at the cafe and put his scratch mittens on so that he couldnt put his hands in his mouth. When we got home I put some hand sanitizer on my hands and the rubbed the excess onto his hands, but before wiping it off with another wet wipe.

I'm so scared that he's going to get sick and I cannot stop myself from spiralling. I know its irrational and that this type of thing happens to lots of babies, but I feel sick with worry right now & can't stop crying. Has anyone else had a similar experience and did things turn out okay?

Make it make sense

How am I the one with a baby who keep in mind is 6 months old but yet my friend who was like literally my soulmate who doesn’t have kids just a boyfriend now who btw swears things like soda are made from babies only can reach out like once every two weeks if I’m even lucky bc she’s so busy? We have each other on Life360 and idk if she thinks I’m an idiot but I can see when she’s home and I know she can’t be that busy she can’t reply to a text like come on we went from hanging out every single day to this crap this is why I’m so over getting close to people like I’m so tired of finally thinking I have a friend for life then out of no where stupid crap like this happens

UBER

HI, Anyone successfully taken an uber with baby carseat and frame put in the boot? I don't drive and hubby can't always take me to things. My carseat can go into a car without the base. Bit I've not tried it yet. I just wondered if it was relatively easy. As there's no option to say you want to travel with a baby. My LO can get upset if it's not matched with his nap, so obviously I'd want a driver whose comfortable if he's upset.

My fiance says he “overheard” my therapy appt

Ever since I had my child (18m) I have been going to therapy because I have long crying spells and huge outbursts that can sometimes end in me throwing things or hitting my head on things which really sucks. I’m trying to work through it some my son does not have to see me like that. This weekend i had my first outburst in over 9 months, so i new
I would have a lot to unpack. As I was talking I had this feeling that he was listening to me. And when I got done he was stand off-ish. I tried to figure out what was wrong but he said can we just watch our TikTok’s in silence. This morning he still seem upset so I asked again he said he heard me talking to my therapist and says I was leaving stuff out about what I did “by the way I was not she has prior knowledge since this is the only therapist I’ve had.” He claims he only heard 15 seconds but imo that doesn’t make sense because how would you feel like I’m leaving stuff out if you only heard a couple seconds. I’m just really upset about it because it’s such an invasion of privacy. And I don’t want to feel guilty about maintaining my mental health especially because I struggle with SH. I think I will jusg do my therapy in the car or at my mom’s house in my old room. Do yall I’m over reacting or should I set the boundaries that he is not allowed near me at all during my appointment