3 kids & confused lol

So I have 2 toddlers & a baby
3.5 years, 1.9 years and a 5 month old.

I’m just questioning if I’m failing or if this is normal.
I’m having a hard time keeping things organized. Laundry is a constant. Washing, folding, putting away. Am I the only one that is struggling having the time to keep things organized and put away? I try so hard to keep tank tops, short sleeves, long sleeves, play clothes put away in the exact spot. All that with 10 mins in between feeding and crying and just having to console, break up an argument about a toy and feeding my infant. Is this normal or am I behind??

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Any tips or tricks are welcome!!!!!

I'm struggling with 2 and laundry. One of them is in daycare. I'm due back to work Wednesday. I do have to do laundry for 6 though.

Normal!!! Only 2 little ones and its a struggle 🙃

I'm 37 my kids are all close together their now 19,17,14 when there were little I had A LOT on my plate I was a married single mother and dealing with abuse plus ripping and running around taking him to work at a factory which meant hours varied and always very long day's,one of my kids was the highest level ADHD and autistic I still kept a clean home a extremely clean home in fact and honestly? I don't how I did it and if I could go back I think I wouldn't have put so much pressure on myself to do it at all.My advice? Clean where you can when you can if their napping or finally quiet and take a few minutes to get another chore done it doesn't have to be perfect and there's a difference between dirty and lived in.Your probably doing better then your giving yourself credit for anyway

Is it time for a declutter?

I was struggling just with 1 most days and what I did is created a schedule for certain goals to achieve each day besides what I need to do to keep us going. Happy to share it with you if it would help give you ideas.

One tip that helped me was dont fold the kids' clothes. Separate them sure, but just toss in drawers. 3yr old could start putting away their laundry and other small chores.

You might be doing too much. Like folding clothes instead of just throwing them in a drawer. Try minimizing the things you do. Don’t take too long to do things. I was also very much like that and still am. My mom and sister gave last week to help me organize. With like a different perspective and it’s definitely helped. Maybe just take a step back and find things that are easy. Organizational things that can be easier for you

I just have the one baby and can’t keep anything organized for more than 5 minutes!

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Would you leave, or am I giving up too easily?

Need some honest advice from other mums because I genuinely feel broken.

I’ve been with my partner for 4 years and we have a 3-month-old baby together. I don’t feel like his girlfriend anymore, I just feel like someone he lives with.

I’ve barely been anywhere since having the baby, yet he’s been out for the football, the pub, getting his haircut, went out all day yesterday after work until late saying it was “one drink”, is out again Wednesday , and already has more plans this week. I feel like I’m always at home with the kids while he carries on as normal.

We recently had a huge argument after I found links to OnlyFans creators in his browser history. Whether people agree or not, I see that as cheating because he’s lusting after other women, and his explanations have kept changing, so I’ve completely lost trust.

The biggest thing is how he treats me. If I cry, he ignores me, walks past me, tells me I’m crying “crocodile tears” or shuts the door in my face. I don’t feel loved, wanted or cared about at all. I’ll be talking to him and he’ll just be on his phone, it’s like talking to a brick will.

Yesterday I told him I wanted to end the relationship because I’m so unhappy. His response was that he’d rather keep doing this because he doesn’t want to only see the kids every other day. It felt like he wanted to keep the relationship for the children, not because he wanted me, he will refuse to let me end it as In because of the kids so I’m in this and miserable, every time I explain what’s wrong or try have a convo he goes “oh I’m ignoring u till you’ve had ur episode and calmed down “ imagine trying to break up with someone and everytime it’s like they refuse 😂??

Need advice pleaseee

First tooth?

Does anyone know if this dark spot I’ve circled is the tooth coming through? He’s 9 and half months and no teeth yet so not sure if this is normal?

First time Mum’s

What does everyone’s days look like?

For us it’s nappy, feed, cuddle, sleep (mostly contact naps). I still struggle to shower and eat when I’m on my own. We don’t go out anywhere other than the garden, and I don’t have the mental capacity to play with him very much (which I feel awful about). I’ve tried using a carrier to get things done around the house or to make my lunch, but I find it kills my back after 5/10 minutes. Losing the will to live 😣

Is anyone else freaking out about money? 🫠

My partner and I don’t have crazy high income’s as it is, I’m band 4 full time NHS and he’s band 3 full time NHS (increasing to 4 in a few months).
We’re viewing nurseries now and the cost of childcare is really hitting me.
I’m planing on taking 9 months mat leave, a month of KIT days (2 a week for 4 weeks) and then another month of annual leave, I’ll go back on 2 days a week so that I can work the 2 days he’ll be in nursery but I’m so scared about not earning enough.
Do people have really set plans for ensuring their income stays manageable?
Tips and tricks? 🥹

Travelling with baby!

We’ve done many uk breaks but I know abroad will be a whole new world! Any tips, things that I should bring?! We’ve got a 2 hour flight at 8 months and a 9 hour at 11 months 🫠

Is this normal?

Noticed these 2 white bits behind my daughter’s top teeth. They almost look like more teeth? As she is still a baby, she can’t communicate if it’s painful but can’t get a dentist appointment till end of july