Unheard and Unseen

I felt overstimulated just ready that first bit.
Gosh, he sounds like a child. Why's he throwing tantrums because *surprise* he can't just touch you up whenever he feels like ?! 🤢
I also wouldn't want to continue in this unpleasant relationship

Is he out of his mind

so this is horrible

Hey, so this is a mantrum from a child who doesn't respect you as a person with autonomy..

My hubs & I used to drive home from visiting my family & all we could talk about was how we were surprised our SIL put up w/my brother. Everyone chalked it up to them having a goofy childish type relationship & that she was “just as ornery” w/him, bc she literally would smack his arm when he’d pinch her or keep doing something she said not to. I said my normal line “the divorce came out of nowhere” & well now my mom & brother claim that the divorce came out of nowhere & my mom can’t believe how she treated him after everything he did for her. I couldn’t help myself, I said “yeah, like letting her work 2 jobs to pay for her hysterectomy bc she was in so much pain from her uterus trying to fall out”. Seriously, my hubs was appalled, he totally would work 3 jobs if it was me in her situation. I also understand her smacking him, when I was 12 I attacked a boy who wouldn’t quit slapping my butt, a person can only handle so much before instinct to defend themselves takes over.

My ex did stupid shit like this to me. Heavy on the *ex*

He’s not “touching you” though. He says “can’t I touch you” dude if it was just normal intimacy touching you wouldn’t be complaining, he holds you down and takes your phone and pinches your already sensitive nipples he sounds like a lil boy wanting attention, that’s not normal spousal touching like touching abs/thighs/bum like most couples do. He’s doing it out of attention and it’s the wrong attention. He’s a manchild and tell him his form of “touching” is not normal on any planet. Wth. I understand you FEEL infuriated but he needs to see that, so he knows how fukn annoying that is. Verbalise it in whatever form you need to to get through his thick head. Throw a tantrum back

This is classic DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. It's what manipulators do to get away with horrible and abusive treatment.

That is disrespectful that he is not respecting your boundaries and thinks it cute when he does these things. You need to sit down with him and tell him that's disrespectful and that he needs to stop. Personally I think he sounds like a narcissist, but I dont know him and I'm not a psychologist. But I know a narcissist in my family and they have my respect for boundaries, invalidates feelings, and never takes accountability. This is not a normal thing. It is at the very least disrespectful.