Postnatal care!

Hey mamis, I’m looking for good postnatal vitamins. Of course, trying to find ones with clean ingredients and not fake supplements. Let me know what has work for you.

I have my vitamins I was taking before pregnancy but I wanna see what else is to try as an exclusive breastfeeding mami.

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SHOULD you help pay the mortgage?

POV: you meet a man who owns a home, you and your child move in with him after some time, he does not want you to pay the mortgage or bills despite offering to do so. He would be paying the mortgage whether you lived there or not. Eventually it’s agreed upon that you pay for the groceries (you insisted on some kind of contribution).

Years later, you pay for groceries, internet, Netflix, phone bills, everything for the kids, playgroups, school stuff, clothing etc. alongside your own personal car payments (loan, fuel, registration etc). You help to pay for some of the bills where possible.

You also become a SAHM to a new baby and lose your work hours because of it but you continue paying for everything you were paying for despite the price of everything going up while your pay has gone down so essentially ALL of your money goes on these things. He works full-time. He also splurged on a car loan a little while ago (we already have 2 cars) so he pays $600 a FORTNIGHT for his recent one, so we have 3 cars.

The man eventually starts saying you don’t contribute and that he has to pay the bills and mortgage on his own. Saying you never have any money but when you explain WHY you don’t, he doesn’t get it.

Your full time job consists of unpaid cleaning, cooking, baby sitting, making lunches, doing school runs & playgroups.

Should you also start paying the mortgage?

If you do start paying the mortgage, should he then go you halves in groceries, internet, Netflix, everything to do with the kids?

Give me your thoughts and opinions.

Do you like men? Like, actually like them?

Not “I love my husband” or “I love my boyfriend.”

I mean, do you genuinely enjoy men as a group? Their company, their conversations, the way they think?

Or do you mostly like your man (if you have one), while finding yourself exhausted by men in general?

Sometimes I wonder how many of us love a man rather than actually liking men.

If romance, sex and relationships were taken out of the equation, would you choose to spend time with men over women?

I’m genuinely curious.

Unheard and Unseen

So my bf and I were having a conversation and I brought up that he’s sometimes controlling. By controlling, I mean he will come and hold my hands down and lay on top of me for 15 mins while I’m having me time or he’ll jokingly take my phone when I’m in the middle of doing something on it then when I get mad he makes it a big deal. Or he’ll come and try to pinch one of my nipples, knowing I’m breastfeeding and my nipples are sensitive. I told him he needs to respect my boundaries and there are times when I’m just touched out from taking care of our kids 24 hours a day with no help. He’s also a very sexual person and my libido is just dead and has been since I had our 5 year old but I still try to push past it. He took it the wrong way and says “so basically don’t touch you? Got it.” Then I said “I didn’t say don’t touch me but you need to just try to understand my feelings.” And he goes “well I don’t understand. I should be able to touch my woman.”

I feel infuriated. I feel unheard and unseen by him. I feel just numb and drained and exhausted just from talking to him. He doesn’t meet my emotional needs. It’s very disappointing and I just don’t wanna do this anymore. Is this a normal reaction?

Advice URGENT

I found out postpartum that my husband slept with someone who had just had a baby four days before I came to see him before we started dating. We were already talking when he slept with a girl, but we hadn’t gotten together in person again. I feel super disturbed that he did this and did not tell me because I got pregnant two months after we started dating and then we got married a little bit later. For a background, my ex-boyfriend who I got back together with. I asked him how many people he slept with a couple months prior after I got pregnant because I wanted to make sure he didn’t have anything and he told me he only slept with one person. He completely lied to me about everyone. He slept with, and I literally found this out while I was actually pregnant.
When we first started dating, he cried to me about his ex-girlfriend or whatever she cheated on him. And then I found her underwear when I was pregnant that he kept in his stuff which bothered me a lot. Turns out he cheated on her first. I also caught him looking her name up on snap when I was preg. But anyways I have seen his whole Snapchat and found out before we dated he was a DOG like he was getting nudes from everyone and like was CHEATING on his ex on snap hard asf. Like idk how to feel. Abt any of this. Like i pretty much got over the nude thing it was just weird. (I downloaded his sc data bc he kept lying).
None of this was from when we dated besides he kept talking to one girl and idc anymore bc I alr got over that ig.
But all of that I guess from prior bothers me bc he’s never honest w me.
Ever since I got bigger like in my pregnancy and had the baby I have been constantly thinking abt his ex and him after like knowing and seeing all that. Like she’s super pretty and skinny and like prettier than anyone he’s EVER been w or anyone I dated has been w and it bothers me. I used to be skinny blond and like hot. Now I literally look fat and terrible and my boobs sag. I just feel so bad about myself idk what to do and I always get so mad abt her. Thinking what he said to her and how much he prolly liked her. And like I look at her page idk. I just always compare myself to her. And ask him about what he did and said with her. I feel so bad about myself. I literally think about what they did together all the time and how much he prolly liked her. It’s so terrible. Ik I mentioned earlier I found like her underwear and stuff from when they dated he didn’t know was there. But like finding out other stuff abt her and seeing what he ordered for her idk. Bothers me. I think it bothers me she looks better than me like ik that’s bad. I can’t stop. And I’ve never been like this only since I’ve like had the baby. Can someone pls give advice.

Contraception

Hey! I’m currently 6 weeks postpartum. I originally declined contraception as I haven’t been on it for 2 years before pregnancy and my partner was debating a vasectomy. He’s now changed his mind which means I’m going to have to reconsider contraception :/ as we definitely do not want anymore babies. I originally stopped taking contraception as I have tried the pill, the implant and IUD. All have messed with my periods and made them really irregular, longer bleeding etc and affected my intimacy with my partner which, after waiting so long for postpartum bleeding to stop, I don’t want to have to deal with again! I guess my question is which contraception have you guys used which least affected your periods??

Local friends (Cape Coral/fort myers)

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