When to break the news

So previously when me and my bd were in a relationship while I
was pregnant (still am), we were discussing name ideas. He came up with some good ones but at the time I was scared to give my input because at the time my family life wasn’t the best situation and I’m still living at home and I was afraid of standing up for myself at the time.
Anyways, unfortunately we broke up because of how he changed and started to treat me. Now that I’ve gain the confidence to handle anything as best as I can and while going through my pregnancy basically alone, I decided that I would be the one to name our son.
Im going to take one of the name suggestions he has and combine it with mines but I know if I tell him he’s going to throw a fit and blow up about it.
Im due in less than 10 weeks and it’s been weighing on my mind for months but I didn’t say anything because the timing wasn’t right or he was just straight up disrespectful. Now that hes quiet and im close to my due date, I want to tell him but dont know how

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Unheard and Unseen

So my bf and I were having a conversation and I brought up that he’s sometimes controlling. By controlling, I mean he will come and hold my hands down and lay on top of me for 15 mins while I’m having me time or he’ll jokingly take my phone when I’m in the middle of doing something on it then when I get mad he makes it a big deal. Or he’ll come and try to pinch one of my nipples, knowing I’m breastfeeding and my nipples are sensitive. I told him he needs to respect my boundaries and there are times when I’m just touched out from taking care of our kids 24 hours a day with no help. He’s also a very sexual person and my libido is just dead and has been since I had our 5 year old but I still try to push past it. He took it the wrong way and says “so basically don’t touch you? Got it.” Then I said “I didn’t say don’t touch me but you need to just try to understand my feelings.” And he goes “well I don’t understand. I should be able to touch my woman.”

I feel infuriated. I feel unheard and unseen by him. I feel just numb and drained and exhausted just from talking to him. He doesn’t meet my emotional needs. It’s very disappointing and I just don’t wanna do this anymore. Is this a normal reaction?

Do you like men? Like, actually like them?

Not “I love my husband” or “I love my boyfriend.”

I mean, do you genuinely enjoy men as a group? Their company, their conversations, the way they think?

Or do you mostly like your man (if you have one), while finding yourself exhausted by men in general?

Sometimes I wonder how many of us love a man rather than actually liking men.

If romance, sex and relationships were taken out of the equation, would you choose to spend time with men over women?

I’m genuinely curious.

Coffee ?

Anyone wanna grab coffee tomorrow ? Even virtually?🫣❤️😂

Partner watching porn

Would you be upset if 2 weeks post partum you found search after search of porn in your partners internet history, it also included searches of chaturbate (like onlyfans) that he claims are just accidental searches from adverts he’s accidentally clicked on while watching porn.

Advice URGENT

I found out postpartum that my husband slept with someone who had just had a baby four days before I came to see him before we started dating. We were already talking when he slept with a girl, but we hadn’t gotten together in person again. I feel super disturbed that he did this and did not tell me because I got pregnant two months after we started dating and then we got married a little bit later. For a background, my ex-boyfriend who I got back together with. I asked him how many people he slept with a couple months prior after I got pregnant because I wanted to make sure he didn’t have anything and he told me he only slept with one person. He completely lied to me about everyone. He slept with, and I literally found this out while I was actually pregnant.
When we first started dating, he cried to me about his ex-girlfriend or whatever she cheated on him. And then I found her underwear when I was pregnant that he kept in his stuff which bothered me a lot. Turns out he cheated on her first. I also caught him looking her name up on snap when I was preg. But anyways I have seen his whole Snapchat and found out before we dated he was a DOG like he was getting nudes from everyone and like was CHEATING on his ex on snap hard asf. Like idk how to feel. Abt any of this. Like i pretty much got over the nude thing it was just weird. (I downloaded his sc data bc he kept lying).
None of this was from when we dated besides he kept talking to one girl and idc anymore bc I alr got over that ig.
But all of that I guess from prior bothers me bc he’s never honest w me.
Ever since I got bigger like in my pregnancy and had the baby I have been constantly thinking abt his ex and him after like knowing and seeing all that. Like she’s super pretty and skinny and like prettier than anyone he’s EVER been w or anyone I dated has been w and it bothers me. I used to be skinny blond and like hot. Now I literally look fat and terrible and my boobs sag. I just feel so bad about myself idk what to do and I always get so mad abt her. Thinking what he said to her and how much he prolly liked her. And like I look at her page idk. I just always compare myself to her. And ask him about what he did and said with her. I feel so bad about myself. I literally think about what they did together all the time and how much he prolly liked her. It’s so terrible. Ik I mentioned earlier I found like her underwear and stuff from when they dated he didn’t know was there. But like finding out other stuff abt her and seeing what he ordered for her idk. Bothers me. I think it bothers me she looks better than me like ik that’s bad. I can’t stop. And I’ve never been like this only since I’ve like had the baby. Can someone pls give advice.

Let’s talk?

Any moms that would like to text and occasionally talk on the phone? I’ve been feeling lonely lately. The only person I really interact with is my partner but he works a lot so I’m mostly just home with my baby. I need some like-minded friends who also enjoy smoking.