Help me out

I have been thinking a lot about my circumstances and what needs to change on two different things. I am 24. I am pregnant with none identical twins and currently 15 weeks today.

First one, my work and deciding on leaving a lot earlier than planned. I have worked as a housekeeper for 5 years in those tines. I've always managed to get through pregnancy and manage my physical workload alright. I left around 35 weeks, had no problems in health, and not struggled in the past. But now, since being pregnant again, I am exhausted with the pregnancy, and it is sometimes a struggle . Being a lot bigger with having twins isn't easy, and it is only gonna get harder as they grow. I already started having health issues now because I don't think I can handle the work load as good as I use to and now I recently got a potential heart issue that has now been surfaced due to the demands of work potentially coursing the issue to be brought to light. I'm emotionally and physically tired every time I come home from work no matter what. I am really want to try to stay as long as I can, but I don't think I'm going to make it to the end of October like I originally thought. I may have to request an early maternity leave for the beginning of September because I am starting to struggle.

The second issue I have to figure out is getting another midwife as my current midwife is hard to get in touch through phone and text for anything important. For example first failed no response was when I was 10 weeks pregnant I tried messaging her to request about making an appointment to check my iron levels might be low as I had been feeling dizzy and weak always tired etc but she never responded or bothered to get in touch. The second failed time she didn't get back in touch was when I started having heart palpitations after work and I tried ringing couple of times to let her know about it but nothing then as a resort I jad to end up ringing 111 last Thursday to get any advice or where to get looked at to then be seen by a doctor.
It is very much a shame as she's great in person and is always listening and giving me advice, but when I need her, she's nowhere to be found like the two occasions. I feel as if I need better midwife care, but I'm not sure how to approach this.

I just need advice or some sort of reassurance that these decisions I'm having to make are the right ones for the long run, and I am not putting myself in a stressful, regretful position. (If that made any sense..)

If anyone can help me out or share their experiences I would love to see in the comments x

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Annoyed!!!

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When to break the news

So previously when me and my bd were in a relationship while I
was pregnant (still am), we were discussing name ideas. He came up with some good ones but at the time I was scared to give my input because at the time my family life wasn’t the best situation and I’m still living at home and I was afraid of standing up for myself at the time.
Anyways, unfortunately we broke up because of how he changed and started to treat me. Now that I’ve gain the confidence to handle anything as best as I can and while going through my pregnancy basically alone, I decided that I would be the one to name our son.
Im going to take one of the name suggestions he has and combine it with mines but I know if I tell him he’s going to throw a fit and blow up about it.
Im due in less than 10 weeks and it’s been weighing on my mind for months but I didn’t say anything because the timing wasn’t right or he was just straight up disrespectful. Now that hes quiet and im close to my due date, I want to tell him but dont know how

Need serious advise

I have a 7 month old baby boy and today I decided to end things with my baby father. A little back story he was unfaithful to me before having a baby and he said that he'd be loyal if I had a baby with him. I did my whole pregnancy alone because he accused me of cheating etc. And only a week ago he met his son for the first time because I sent him a letter in the mail since he had me blocked on everything and I moved. This past week I've seen no change from his past behaviour. He's so unhelpful with our son and barely even paid any attention to him. I didnt appreciate him also smacking me and throwing dirty nappies at my face in front of our son and he kept laughing it off. Last night it was really hot and my baby was crying and restless and my baby father kept pulling his leg really hard and telling him to shush so he could sleep. I ended up restless because I was trying to cool our son down as well as put him to sleep. In the morning I said how I was upset that he didn't even try to help me and he got upset saying that he picked him up once in the night which just irritated me because he only picked up our son to give him to me. After that I barely said anything to him and just did everything myself like I've been doing the past 7 months. I then decided to end things with him saying I don't think this relationship is working right now but im still happy to split custody. But he replied if he we aren't together hes not going to be involved with our son. Im now blocked. In some sense im relieved to be a single parent and take care of my LO but hes a boy. I can't help but feel guilty that he needs his father. Should I go back to him or is there no point?

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