Different lifestyle

Im just venting a little bit.. As a mom and wife, friendships with single friends who have no children have become difficult. Their lifestyle is completely different and neither do they understand mine. I don't have the tolerance for any foolery at this stage of my life. I am 38 years old and my level of tolerance is decreasing. Be an adult and have mutual respect. I have a household to run. I have my kid to care for and to be married. I think this is why the majority of my friends now are married with kids. We don't have time for foolishness.

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I think it really depends on a person I have friends with no kids that are really sweet and attentive and I have friends or well former friends that still expect me to collect them, cater for them and be out with them when clearly I have a lot going on. If most of your friends were party girls it is usually what happens

This!! I’m 30 have two kids. I had a best friend of 10+ years and I have now started to step back because she had no idea what my lifestyle is. Two kids and a husband. We have tried to get together but things come up with the kids that’s unexpected. She also thinks that I need to be the one to come see her all the time, like no thank you. She doesn’t realize the extent of having to get two kids ready plus all the stuff like by the time I’m driving I’m exhausted. Let’s not add on an hour or so drive! Like no thank you. I need more mom married friends! 👏🏽💕

I already went to my friend's house twice. She is an hour away. She invited me to her house BBQ next week.thatbwould make 3 times I go to her house between this year and last year. If I go to the BBQ I think this is the best way to confront her about it (face to face). I'm also seeing a pattern of her not getting back to me when I ask for help or if I have a question. Her BBQ is RSVP if she wants me to get back to her about a BBQ invite ( yes or no answer) I think it's only fair to get the same in return. It's called mutual respect. I don't think I ask for a lot. Usually what I want is simple. If you can't help me in the situation I'm in then tell me don't ghost or ignore me.

I honestly think it comes down to the friend’s level of maturity. They don’t have to have kids to respect that your life is different now.
One of my best friends friends surprised me with musical tickets. I thanked him but explained I have a son, a partner, and school. He apologized, asked what my schedule looked like, and now he always checks how I’m doing and plans around my free time instead of expecting me to fit into his. I do the same by respecting his single life and work schedule too. (He’s alway planned booked with dates and friend meet ups)That’s what real friendship is mutual respect.

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Hi. So I been talking to this guy for 1 month. Something is off about him and i see the red flags but i need some reassurance. Here are something’s that happened or said.

1) I wasn’t rushing into sex, well he did. He egged me on and kept saying people have sex that’s what they do. He made a big deal because I wasn’t ready for sex. Well we tried doing it and it didn’t work out. We tried about 10 years ago and had the same result. He couldn’t get it up.

2) he told me his baby momma had a hickey on her and told him she’s seeing someone. It totally hurt his feelings.

3) I went over the other day and he said Xanax doesn’t do nothing for him. He’s into hallucination shrooms or whatever within that category. He ate them like they was nothing. My brother died from an OD in January.

But I’m still curious about how he couldn’t get it up, I know Xanax is way worse but he kept saying how embarrassing that is he couldn’t do it. I’ve never in my life experienced that before. So I was understanding why I was there. Well when I leave he will tell me well I was thinking about you and send me a picture of how hard it got.

He did tell me he watches a lot of corn. So I’m not sure what happened to him but this has only ever happened with this particular guy.

Which sucks because I truly feel a physical connection with him that I’ll probably never have. M

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