Separation

I haven’t been on here in awhile. I’m struggling with life right now. It’s my birthday weekend and I’m so depressed. Separating from my son’s father and my closest friends are out of state. I feel like I have no one I can call or talk to. Even if I work up the courage to express my feelings, I’m so embarrassed by the whole situation, I just loose all motivation.
And I’m tired of going out by myself. It doesn’t even feel as good as it used to before I had a child. I’m not sure what I need but it’s something.

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Oh man I feel for you, I'm in a somewhat similar situation or at least will be in two weeks...I hope you feel better soon and do something nice for yourself on your birthday with your little one. Treat yourself. Be gentle with yourself. You never know, next birthday could be the best one ever.

Sometimes the hardest part starts with admitting how you feel. Try writing a letter, not addressed to anyone in particular but just so you can truly get everything off your chest. No filters, dont worry about grammar or punctuation just write everything you'd like to be able to say even if to no one in particular. Then once you've done that, write a list of 10 things you admire about yourself. They can be big or small. The list youre going to put on sticky notes or sheets of paper and fold them up and put them in a jar for a rainy day, but that letter? You're going to burn it. Then youre going to go to the store and buy your favorite drinks and snacks and youre going to do whatever the hell you want to do.

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Stay at home mom thoughts

I think the scariest thing about being a stay at home mom with no support system, no family or friends is if you guys break up you have no money, no house and no where to go so then you just become homeless.
Something that has been weighing on me heavily since me and my partner are not doing good for quite some time now.

Do you keep a bin in your bathroom? (Odd question I know)

I keep a bin in all my bathrooms and find it really weird when I go to someone’s home and they don’t have it in theirs. Especially when there’s women and teenage girls and they have to walk to the kitchen bin to throw their sanitary pads or tampons away.

Real friends

Anyone wanna be friends and chat? Like actual chit chat whenever, check in on eachother, actually hold a conversation? Even a group chat where we share funny stuff or cool stuff we're up to, I haven't had much luck besides quick convos that go nowhere or I just get ghosted 😭

Feeling so alone

I’m 7 months pregnant today. My child’s father and I just can’t seem to work. I’m feeling so guilty for bringing a child into a broken home, and feeling so alone. I know it sounds dumb but I’m missing intimacy which I haven’t had in so long. I also can’t get over the fact that I’ll have to share custody with him, I can’t imagine handing my baby over to him and not being able to keep him with me.
I have never felt so dumb, so alone, and just shameful.

Boring/ no sex

I’m so tired of having no sex with my partner. People go on about men have needs well erm women do too! I’m 6 months pp and i think we’ve had it like 3 times since little one arrived. I constantly feel horny.

Before i was pregnant our sex was often and it was good, i enjoyed it. He stopped giving me head before pregnancy and it was mainly because he didn’t enjoy it but would do it now and then to please me.He made a comment after I had the baby saying it will be a while before he eats me out again…

1. What makes him think I want him there so soon.
2. How dare he even be rude like that after I’ve just given birth
3. It’s been 6 months now and I’ve still not received it.

It’s not even just about that but our sex is so boring and all happens so quick. He even tried to skip foreplay last time and I was like no what are you doing!!

I suggested role play to ramp it up a bit and he laughed at me and when I said no I’m being serious he pulled a weird face. I also like being dominated and he use to be good at doing that and again it’s all gone. I said about getting new underwear and said to him why don’t he pick and he was like why what’s the point it will just end up on the floor…. I mean true but I’m trying to feel abit sexy for myself and him.

I feel like he has lost interest all together. He barely kisses/ hugs me unless I ask!

And this is the worst part but I find myself romanticising about past sexual connections lately because of being so sexless. I feel guilty but I can’t help it.

Need friends! 🥲

Honestly guys, I love being a SAHM but it can be sooo lonely sometimes. I moved out here to the Sacramento area for my fiance and left my college town where all my friends were, I’ve been here for a year now and I still have yet to make any friends, especially now that I’m a mom and a young mom at that. Then I found this app but it’s hard to find people that actually want to carry a conversation and get to know me, I understand mom life is busy so I don’t expect to text all day but like most convos on here don’t go past “hi how are you?” Loll idk maybe it’s just me. But I’m sooo in need of girl time so if anyone is interested in building an actual friendship let me know haha 🤍