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Feeling so alone

I’m 7 months pregnant today. My child’s father and I just can’t seem to work. I’m feeling so guilty for bringing a child into a broken home, and feeling so alone. I know it sounds dumb but I’m missing intimacy which I haven’t had in so long. I also can’t get over the fact that I’ll have to share custody with him, I can’t imagine handing my baby over to him and not being able to keep him with me.
I have never felt so dumb, so alone, and just shameful.

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Hi lovely! I’m so sorry you are feeling this way ☹️ I know it must be so daunting to prepare to raise your baby without their dad under the same roof. Your beautiful bundle of joy will be here in a couple of months and I’m sure all of the worries will melt away! I know I won’t be much help as I live in England, but feel free to message me and I’d be happy to chat to you 🫶🏻❤️

Im so sorry sending you strength & hugs it is difficult. One thing you will learn as a mom is how strong we are and we can get through anything despite how hard it is. Try to focus on people who are supportive towards you.

I went through a similar thing. Message me if you want to chat!

Don’t beat yourself up. I’ve been there. If you need a listening ear I’m here

Don't feel bad! If you're not working, you're already doing your best for your baby. To raise a happy baby with someone, you both need to connect physically and emotionally, and understand each other's expectations (like daily help around the house or caring for the baby. That way everyone's taken care of). I stayed with my baby's dad because I got pregnant, and it just gets more and more toxic, and even harder to separate because of the fear of sharing custody. It's better to make a plan before the baby gets here and focus on what's best for you and your baby. You're strong, you've got this! If you ever have any doubts, feel free to reach out to me anytime. ♡♡♡

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I have never felt so dumb, so alone, and just shameful.

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