Sex and marriage
Sex and marriage
So when it comes to sex with my husband at the moment, I can’t say I have a strong urge to do it. Every time he is the one who initiates it I can’t say I don’t want to do it. It’s not like there’s anyone else I’m attracted to and it’s not like I’m not attracted to my husband, but I’m almost 20 weeks pregnant and we have a toddler.
I don’t know what it is. It’s not that I want to break up with my husband and it’s not that I’m not attracted to him. But I don’t know. I just don’t really have the urge that he does to have sex.
And I know that we’re married and it’s good to have sex and all that and whenever he initiates it, I do do it but I don’t know. I just don’t really feel like I’m up for it but I don’t know. But also I don’t really want to make him feel bad and say I’m not really dying for it. It’s not like the sex is bad.
I also know that sometimes my husband is a bit tone deaf to me.
Like I’m not really feeling that well and he’s asking or what time are we having dinner? Or he comes in and is asking what I have for dinner and I’m thinking how about asking me how I’m feeling instead.
Like I just feel like he just cares more about his pet cat and doesn’t really carry the mental load of having a toddler that I do or having a pregnant wife.
I just feel like he’s very much just focused on himself and his cat. It’s me who sort of constantly got the mental load of making sure our toddler isn’t doing something risky, watching her just keeping up to speed with like everything like appointments, health, activities what our toddler eats and wants etc.
and then yeah sometimes he just says some really annoying things like this week one day when I was telling him to watch our toddler and he walked away and I told him that he needs to watch her he told me to calm down
and then there was another time this week that I told him that something he’s done it’s just making more work for me and he said yeah, whatever.
And then there’s also another time when this week when I said to him I was telling him you know last night when you were telling me about dinner like that was the last thing on my mind I could barely stand I could barely function and then he didn’t even say anything and then I looked and I turned around and he was just like lying on the ground stroking his cat.
I’m just like I don’t know if those things contribute to it sometimes but yeah.
Definitely hard to make friends
I got stood up… we made plans to hang out at the pool no call no show no contact, I reach out no response so odd to me .. now I see why people say it’s hard to make friends or people just ghost you .. this is my first time pregnant my husband away in the military I’m not from California all my family is home so I’m actually going through a lonely moment, I will be 100% vulnerable . where I’m from I see brown skin a lot , I’m in Oceanside I see my skin color not so often and I don’t feel like I fit in so much , always feel like I’m odd when I walk outside I’m very confident, just loneliness is kicking in due to pregnancy
(Purpose of post is to meet people that are serious to meet)
Low Labido
During my pregnancy, and now after (almost 6 weeks postpartum) I wasnt very turned on with my husband. I love him and find him attractive and we had a good sex life, but, I feel like he's being pushy and I feel like he's pushing me to be sexual sometimes. He will tell me he misses my touch but then put my hand on his dick and expects me to give him a handjob when he doesnt ask me. I told him, ask me. Im not in the mental head space to be sexual. I'm exhausted from our newborn (5 weeks old, almost 6)
He took up smoking because of his stress. What do I have? I cant drink because if I drink too much then I cant care for my baby. I cant nap, no one let's me sleep (pets included). Im the one who cleans and plans the meals. Thankfully he's doing the laundry and taking our dog out.
I dont want to be touched sexually. I want sweet, hugs from behind, being held, cuddles and kisses. Not a hard dick hitting my butt and being told I need your touch but not asking me for consent.
I want to be intimate with him. But, the other issue is....he's poly. Im not.
