Would this annoy you or am I being sensitive?

Hi all,
I just want to know whether I'm letting my emotions get the better of me, or if I'd be justified in feeling annoyed.
For a bit of context, we live in the Yorkshire Dales and my father-in-law lives in Somerset, so it's a long journey that takes quite a bit of planning, especially with a toddler.
Last weekend, my father-in-law retired, so my husband went down on his own to celebrate with him. I stayed home with our little one, which was absolutely fine, I had no issue with that.
This coming weekend, we're all travelling down because it's my father-in-law's birthday and, naturally, he wants to see his granddaughter too. We've planned the journey with plenty of stops, so although it's a long drive, we've made it work.
The thing that's bothered me is that last night my father-in-law texted my husband asking if he'd come back down again the following weekend as well to play a round of golf because there's an event on at his golf club.
That would mean my husband driving from Yorkshire to Somerset for the third weekend in a row, and I'd be solo parenting for another weekend.
I think what upset me most wasn't even the golf itself, it was that it felt like there wasn't much consideration for our family time together. I completely understand my husband wanting to see his dad, and I have no problem making the journey when there's a genuine family occasion. But after we've already made the effort for his retirement and then his birthday, asking him to make another 500-mile round trip the very next weekend for golf just feels like quite a big ask.
Am I being unreasonable for feeling a bit put out by it, or would you feel the same

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I said I felt like I’d been given the silent treatment all day, he said he’s allowed to be tired and that I always make things about me, and I’ve started something out of nothing. He said “do you know how hard it is going to work on hardly any sleep”, I said yes as looking after our 8 month old is a full time job (I do most night wakes but he helps sometimes). I get that work is hard but I feel like I’ve done something wrong, when I got upset he reiterated it’s not all about me and told me to fuck off which ended the conversation (I know this is unacceptable)
My baby was in the room and I hate talking in front of her like that ☹️

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Oh well it ruined my whole day anyway. Whenever anything he says upsets me and I confront it, he tries to joke about it and says I’ve spat my dummy out or calls me a snowflake, he even did the invisible violin the other day.

He’s not like that often and he is a good dad.. I’m not sure what I want from this post as I don’t feel I’m in the wrong