Husband attitude

My husband works from home and I’m on maternity leave, we always cross paths and talk throughout the day. Today he was tired but hasn’t spoken a single word to me until it blew up this evening. I’d also been the dentist today and my mouth is sore.

I said I felt like I’d been given the silent treatment all day, he said he’s allowed to be tired and that I always make things about me, and I’ve started something out of nothing. He said “do you know how hard it is going to work on hardly any sleep”, I said yes as looking after our 8 month old is a full time job (I do most night wakes but he helps sometimes). I get that work is hard but I feel like I’ve done something wrong, when I got upset he reiterated it’s not all about me and told me to fuck off which ended the conversation (I know this is unacceptable)
My baby was in the room and I hate talking in front of her like that ☹️

She is EBF and hasn’t slept well for four months so I’m up most of the night and do bedtime which can take 1-2 hours. Just feel like he has two sides?

Oh well it ruined my whole day anyway. Whenever anything he says upsets me and I confront it, he tries to joke about it and says I’ve spat my dummy out or calls me a snowflake, he even did the invisible violin the other day.

He’s not like that often and he is a good dad.. I’m not sure what I want from this post as I don’t feel I’m in the wrong

in our community

Am I in the wrong

I suggested to my husband that he could maybe one night every couple of weekends he could get up with the kids. At the minute im up about 5 times a night with both kids so hardly getting any sleep. Im happy to do this during the week as he is working and im on Mat leave but i dont think its unreasonable for once in a while for me to have one nights sleep. Also I do all the cooking/cleaning/childcare.
He just said no, he has a physical job and his body needs rest. He said he'll end up ill if he doesnt get his sleep. Im just really tired and expected to do everything all the time because im on mat leave.

Please be honest with me ..

My daughter was crying in car the whole drive home. My husband tells her to shut up and I tell him not to say that to her. He then goes on basically saying I’m a bad mom because I don’t let him parent because I told him not to tell her to shut up. (4years old) he says if he was the one staying at home (SAHM)she would be acting that way (crying all the way home) am I a bad parent who doesn’t let him parent because i tell him not to tell her to shut up? He then tries to justify it by saying growing up his parents told him to shut the F up and hit him and tells me I don’t know how your parents raised you etc .. continues to tell me do your duty teach them good values, etc..does this whole situation raise a question that I’m a bad mom? And am I just being sensitive because I didn’t like how he told her to shut up?

(Genuinely curious) Would you let your child

Would you let your child read trans educational books if they’re offered in the school library? When answering please say a reason why

Would you get annoyed at your sister?

So our hot water wasn’t working, as the boiler pressure was down.
I called to report it, and the landlord was telling me that we should try boiling hot water, and putting it in a plastic container and washing ourselves in the kitchen ( as I said I don’t want to carry boiling water to the bathroom with two small kids). ( as a temporary fix while someone comes to repair).

And I told my mum who was with me ( my mum was in a group call with my sister and aunts). And my sister said they tried tricking you guys, and we said no, and she said they tricked Bethany ( meaning me).

It’s fine if she just said it to me, but they were on a group call with other aunties! I felt so undermined. I got annoyed saying what trick are you talking about! So now the aunts gonna think I’m disrespectful?

Urine sample

The gp has asked for me to get a urine sample from my 7 month old girl!
Please any tips and tricks as sitting with a pot infront of her with no nappy and waiting might send me round the bend 😂

How to grow?

How do you stay progressive when you are a mother?

It almost feels impossible at times. Almost like my goals have stopped, meaning while my partner chases his.

I feel like I'm falling behind.

I always aimed for a promotion every 2 years or would move jobs for more money.

Maternity leave was soo bad and I have alot of unexpected cost which left me in debt. I have only just managed to clear it.

But the reality is being a mum comes and wife comes with alot of mental load. Don't get me started on working a job. Theres no time to feed into myself, my goals or even think about what's next for progression.

How do you stay progressive? (level up in life?

Like at this stage of life, are you where you thought your be?

I honestly thought I would have multiple streams of income. But I'm struggling mentally with this 1 currently have.