Loneliness

Hi moms, I’m three months postpartum, and I feel like the postpartum period is really starting to hit me now. I feel very lonely and, I don’t know how to explain it, but I have this feeling that something is different. I’m not exactly sad, but I often feel overwhelmed, I overthink everything, and I feel lost. I don’t feel like myself anymore. I feel like I’ve become a different person. It’s like I’m here physically, but I’m not fully present. I feel disconnected from myself sometimes.
I’m also feeling very alone. My husband is a truck driver, so most of the time it’s just me and the baby. I love my baby so much, but I feel like I’ve lost a part of myself and I’m trying to find her again.
I would really appreciate any advice, experiences, or encouragement from other moms who have felt this way. Did anyone else feel like this around three months postpartum? How did you get through it?

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Lost my sex drive….and starting to resent my husband.

I’m 6months pp, have a 4 year old and running my own business- I’m EBF too, baby won’t take the bottle to the point I’ve just given up trying- I literally feel like I’m running at 100mph. Baby doesn’t really settle for anyone else other than myself and my mum that has her while I work. She will settle with her dad providing I’m out of sight.
She’s a velcro baby so I get about 20min where she will entertain herself.

My husband also runs his own business and most nights he isn’t home till 8pm sometimes later. Safe to say that at the end of the night the last thing on my mind is having sex. I try and make an effort as my husband has a very high sex drive and I make sure we’re intimate 2-3 times a week. Most of the time he does initiate it rather than myself.
I just got our little girl to sleep last night and was laying on the bed, he comes in and starts touching me, he then gets the nipple suction cups out, I said I’d rather not- do you not think my nipples have enough during the day- he then proceeds to put them on me- obviously with the suction I start leaking, so I said no and put them on the side, he then gets a toy out and said maybe this will help get you in the mood- I said it’s not that I’m not in the mood, she’s literally just gone to sleep and I’d like 10mins on my own (it was gone 10pm at this point and we had sex on Sunday & Friday) He then said ‘god what’s a bloke got to do to get some attention from his wife, no wonder men end up resenting women’
Without even thinking I just said ‘I can assure you I resent you for a far lot more’ he just got up and walked out.
I fully understand what I said wasn’t nice but what he said actually hurt me. I put everyone else before myself and for once I’d actually just like him to think of me rather than himself!
He gets up, goes to work and comes home, has his dinner, has a shower and goes to bed- he literally doesn’t have anything to worry about other than work. He’ll take our little girl when he’s home but only so I can put our son to bed, as soon as I walk out he gives me the baby so he can have his dinner 🙄

We was invited out at the weekend to my cousins partners birthday bbq, I said we would go- on the day my husband said ‘I’m not going, dunno why you said we’d go you can go on your own’ I was like great wonderful, both kids on my own- absolutely nothing stopping him from putting himself out and putting me first and just coming with me, but no he left me to go on my own with both kids.
He did this about 2 months ago too, we was invited out with some friends, he said he was coming at then the last minute he just said no, I’ve got stuff to do so you’ll have to go on your own.

Resentment is kicking in quick, I just don’t know what to say to him.
We’ve been together almost 15 years - I just feel that he’s turning into a very self absorbed dick!

Am I over reacting?

Single Now!

I am 2 weeks postpartum and the father of my child decided to break up with me because ‘’ we argue too much and he hasn’t been feeling the relationship since I got pregnant ‘’ mind you this was after he decided to go out drinking on Sunday with his friend and his friend’s girlfriend. He came home from work for 2-3 hours then went out and never called me till after 1am to say he was coming home, so I told him not to. He also went out drinking with this same friend when I was 1 day pp and still in the hospital to ‘’ celebrate ‘’ the birth of our daughter. He is still here helping out and ‘’ trying to make sure I’m okay but I’m stuck between not wanting to be around or talk to him and wanting to do the right thing by letting him be around his daughter. I’m not ready to have my daughter away from me yet and I don’t 100% trust him to take care of her by himself. Some of the things we argue about is him supporting her head and leaving her at the edge of the bed, etc. He feels like I’m just trynna boss him around. He’s a great person but not a great boyfriend in some aspects which is making this rlly hard.

Do you use condoms with your spouse?

I heard that couples don’t use condoms…

Even if they are not conceiving and they don’t want kids, they still don’t use condom…

So I was just curious

I thought only people that hook up with strangers use condoms

Self care

Anyone else wanting to go get everything done? I’m talking like facial, massage, nails, hair. I’m a first time mom and I’m slowing disintegrating. My back and body hurts, my face is flaking and breaking out, I can’t stop chewing my nails

Pregnacare

Hi yall! I’m 20 weeks and I’m still taking my Pregnacare , is that still okay to take or should I move into something different? First time mumma here and I want to do what is best!

Why does motherhood feel so lonely?

I am a new SAHM with a 4 month old son. Sometimes I struggle with routine. Should I go out and meet new people? Walk in the park? Have solo dates with my son? I am always in my head on what to do next that sometimes I stay stuck. Anyone else in this position? If so let’s connect 💬