Who takes out the trash? And does it being a spouse or roommate change your answer?
Person 1: at least once a week shoves fast food bags or takeout boxes into an almost full trash can (often times falling out) “can’t take it out” because they’re late for work, but are late everyday.
Person 2: can’t make breakfast for self or kids without first taking out the trash, and works from home.
The long version: My husband and sister are feuding because my sister is always overfilling the trash can, and leaves it for my husband to take out. She argues that she is running late, so she can’t take it out. He says she’s already 10 minutes late, so what’s the difference in being 11 minutes late? She think trash is his job because it was always our dad’s appointed job. He says if she wants a man doing her dirty work she needs to go find her own lol
If it was me he wouldn’t care to take it out, but he’s not her husband and we’ve spent the last year (time living with her) trying to show her we are not her parents and she needs to take care of herself.
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Whoever sees the trash can is full so if she filled it then she can take it out the night before if running late for work is her excuse . She sounds a bit like a teenager who needs a chore chart to say whose turn it is 😅. I’d do it no second thoughts but it’s not right for your husband to keep taking it out if she overflows it
I don't understand why he wouldn't care if it was you but since it's your sister she needs to find a man to take the trash out? My husband is my husband only but he takes the trash out and does other things to help out others including my sister, they can just ask him for help they don't have to go to their own husbands or find their own husbands.
If the overfilling or inconsideration is the problem I'd understand, but if it's only because he's not her husband then I'm not getting it.
Guilty as charged. My husband is the only person who takes out the trash. I do tell him to take out the trash though and I will tie up the bag and put it at the front door. He has a relationship with the crows. I am not going to argue with the crows at the bins about how they cannot open up our bags. they can eat the popcorn the children drop in the backyard. That's the arrangement.
My husband takes out the trash usually but that doesn't stop any of us women from doing it when it needs doing. My sister lives with us too and she looks after herself 😅
Sounds like the argument is more about timing than who takes it out... Why is anybody suggesting she take it out when she's on the way out to work? Why not after dinner? Also, why does the trash need to be out to make breakfast? They don't seem related? That sounds like they're prioritizing it highly for personal reasons and then expecting others to align with their priorities
If u share the home u share the chores of u pregnant and in a relationship the man
The man should take out the trash. I’m very traditional that way personally. My husband is very traditional. He wouldn’t want my sister taking out the trash. That’s just how he is and what I love about him. No judgment on how your hubby feels though!Does your sister pay rent or help around the house in other ways? If not maybe discuss everyone’s role and responsibilities in the house? It sounds like an awkward situation I’m sorry you’re in the middle.
I would be so insulted if I was your husband. This is 2026, everyone needs to share household duties if they wanna share a home.
She is responsible of herself if anything the trash chore should be split between the both of them
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