Cheater?

So I don't know who all saw my last post... But after a month of arguing about his fake snapchat and him saying he never cheated... The truth came out. He was having sexual conversations and exchanging nudes with other females who "look good".. I was a week postpartum while he did this... Am I dumb if I stay? I'm hurt, I'm disgusted. I don't believe anything he says. I feel like I wasn't good enough and that's why he did it. He's been boo hoo crying and non stop apologizing since I left him for a night to think. I haven't accepted my ring back from him. He's the love of my life. I want it to work with him but I'm not ready to forgive. I feel stuck... I don't know what to do..

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Oh! He will not recover these messages. Which makes me believe he's still lying. I just want to see what they have that I don't. He also said it was only sexual conversations but said someone called to vent about their life? So obviously they're comfortable with him outside of dirty talk. He keeps begging me to let go of wanting to see the messages because he "doesnt want to see the pain in my eyes"

Awee mama u don’t deserve this. Congratulations on ur new bundle of joy! Bt Please don’t take this the wrong way bt girl yes it would be foolish for u to stay. Please don’t take a cheater back because they will just cheat on again & u will be creating patterns in ur relationship & not only is ur partner a cheater bt he is also a liar. Ask urself why u would want to stay in a relationship with some1 who is capable of cheating & cheating on while pregnant or in postpartum when ur at ur most vulnerable? That is not love. Ppl who love u don’t deliberately hurt u. I understand that this is the love of ur life, bt is this the love ur willing to accept. U deserve better. And if he didn’t want to hurt u or see the pain in ur eyes then he shouldn’t have been up to no good. He is trying to pretend that he cares abt ur “hurt” very comical since he is the one who caused it. The only thing to do once a partner has cheated is to go into self preservation mode. U need to think abt urself & ur baby

I would not be able to stay especially because me personally I want multiple children and I would not be able to go through another pregnancy with a man like that who know what else he’s done

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