Advice needed please 🙏🏻 (I’m desperate 🫠)

My sweet girl is a little over nine months, I’m suddenly really struggling and dreading naps and bed time. It is such a battle, previously she would feed to sleep and be transferred to her cot easy peasy. Now the transfer is proving difficult and she screams the house down once placed down and I have to try many, many times. She’s fighting naps too (just having 2 a day now)
I’m back to work a couple days a week, shortly upping to 4 days. I feel like my battery is flat. I had finally got an ounce of personality back and now I’m back in survival mode all over again. I’m treading on eggshells as she seems so unpredictable. Crying in the pram after short periods, suncream is a big deal etc.
Any advice on how to navigate this phase or tips in what I could be doing differently. I’m starting to feel like I’m doing a bad job and hugely doubting my capability.
Ty in advance from a very worn down Mumma 🪫

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My girl has just turned 9 months around a week ago and we are going through some sort of sleep regression it’s really really tough!! fighting naps waking every hour through the night etc.
9 months they should have transitioned from 3 naps to 2 anyway. What are your wake windows like between naps? Sometimes it’s can become a fight if over tired or under tired? I use the huckleberry app and have done for a while it’s pretty bang on in terms of nap times etc she always seems to go around the time it suggests although not through this regression 😩.

I feel like because they are going through a lot with crawling learning to stand etc it’s pretty normal but doesn’t make it easier for us!

I could have written this myself my son is 9 and a half months and I feel completely in the trenches lately and the sleep deprivation is definitely affecting my mental health! So no advice but nice to know I’m not the only one going through it x

so, I will always feed the bottle
and put my little one ( 9month) down- I will not go back in after that. I may sound cruel but I also have a 3 year old who i did exactly the same with. he will just get in bed and shout bye mommy- I personally dont think it damages them in anyway, if anything it allows them to self soothe.
in terms of sun cream and things like that and like nappy changes etc i just get hold of him, pin down and do it. they don't understand but i explain why I'm doing it anyway as they will grasp it one day.

Just hang on in their- it changes every 6 weeks i swear, todays problem will be completely forgotten about in a matter of weeks :) I am sure your doing an amazing job!

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