My partner is so rude

Hey everyone. I don’t have anyone who I could speak to about this so just thought I’d ask for peoples opinions on here.

My partner and I often have arguments, as many people do but he is so rude and disrespectful to me constantly and it’s really getting on top of me now.
For context- he works full time and I work 2 days a week in a school so I’m currently off on school holidays. It’s my daughters birthday tomorrow and we have just argued because I asked him to put the birthday banners up just after he finished blowing up balloons at 11:15pm but he was annoyed because I didn’t put this on the list of things he needed to do which included- build a mini trampoline and electric car and blow up balloons. During this argument he said:
* “You’re crazy- you need medicating”
* “I’m the one who’s been at work all day- you’ve been at home.” This is after I’ve literally been busy doing things for my daughter’s birthday all day. Party food shopping, went to card factory, did washing and put it out, built her play house, hoovered up, decorated her cake.
* “I’ve been busy doing all this while you’ve just been upstairs ” he’s referring to the fact I was bathing our daughter, putting her to bed which also took 40 mins and then showering myself at 10:15pm
* Says “you just make everything so difficult” often says this to me. But here was referring to the fact that I’ve been busy all day and it would not have taken him this long to do the things I’ve done basically.

I called him a cunt, nasty and said he is the rudest person I know. Which honestly I believe both are true. He is so disrespectful to me all the time like this. Calls me a liar constantly if I get something slightly wrong eg, he called me crazy and when I repeated back to him the rude things he’s said, I used the word psycho cause he has used that words many times and he called me a liar because he said crazy.
He didn’t today but he will often say things to me like “oh you don’t even know the meaning of that word. Is it another tik tok buzz word”.

I love him and we recently had a talk about both of us improving on things but I’m struggling with how rude he is to me tbh. I just don’t see why he can’t help me finish the jobs setting up for her birthday tomorrow.

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