I feel like I hate my husband.

I feel like I’ve been getting annoyed at my husband a lot lately. I’m a SAHM, and he works from home except for one day a week when he goes into the office.

I feel like he expects me to do everything. I cook, feed the baby, do the deep cleaning, etc. He does try to clean too, but honestly, I don’t really like the way he does things. For example, he never cleans the bathroom, and he doesn’t really mop or vacuum. He cleans the kitchen, but even the way he washes things annoys me because he doesn’t rinse the dishes properly. We have a dishwasher, but he prefers to hand-wash little things throughout the day.

I’ve given him bath time with our 18-month-old son, but even then, when he gets him out of the bath, I’m the one getting his clothes ready and everything. Then he sits with him for like 15–20 minutes and puts him to bed.

During the weekdays, he does play with him sometimes during the day, but in general, I’m the one with our LO most of the time, which makes sense because he’s working. But when he doesn’t have meetings, he spends a lot of that time playing games.

I’ve started to really resent him, and honestly, sometimes I feel like I hate him. We used to be such a loving couple, but I don’t even feel like giving him attention anymore because of all this resentment I’m building up.

I feel like if I cook, he should at least take care of all the kitchen cleaning. Is that unreasonable? Am I wrong for feeling this way?

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Am i over reacting

Really need help on how to deal with an on-going situation.. me and my partner parent differently he has a more angry approach i guess.. for a while now Ive noticed him grabbing our toddler by the arm if he’s being dangerous or to move him etc.. when i tell him i don’t like that or tell him not to do that he tries to gas light me and say he didn’t.. at times I’ve thought maybe i’m over reacting because of my own violent childhood and maybe im feeling triggered but then i sit and think well i can parent without being hands on so? Also our toddler has started jumping on me and using me as a climbing frame, very normal at this age ofc but I’m pregnant so its a worry, he wasn’t listening and kept doing it again and again and i tried gentle parenting and distraction and all sorts and nothing worked eventually my partner lost his shit and put him in his own bed and shouted at him pointing his finger in his face, our toddler then stopped, didn’t cry or anything. He doesn’t seem hurt when the arm is being grabbed but I still don’t want to parent that way, i don’t really know how to approach the subject with my partner anymore because its causing tension, any ideas or advice please? Also am i being a snowflake about all of this or is what im feeling valid?

Do you think saying this is ok?

My friend has a daughter who’s now 20 months old. 6 months ago, she met a guy & they’re now living together.
My friend works Monday to Friday so her daughter is in childcare 9-5:30 for them days.
Her partner has said to her that he thinks on the weekend family should look after her baby so that him and her can 1 have alone time and 2 get some rest.
He also is saying her daughter needs to be in bed and asleep by 7.30 so they can get there evenings together after work.
I feel like my friend never has her and I feel terrible on her daughter!??

Predator

Recently moved into a new apartment and a African man who lives in the building took a interest in myself and my daughter. He gave a compliment like I dont know which one is more beautiful you or the daughter. I say thanks but then he sees us another day and he throws another compliment. Now im uncomfortable. Another day he stops in his tracks to stare at the both of us briefly. One day my daughter forgot something in the car and went downstairs to grab it. He approaches the car and asks her how old she was. She tells him please step back im not comfortable. He said " fine im going inside anyway". My daughter tells me what happened and I immediately flew into a rage. I knew exactly who she was talking about and went and knocked on his door. I told him if he has any questions he needs to ask me directly not when my daughter is alone. He acted like he never saw us before and defended his behavior by saying he has a son. Pissed me off. Am I over reacting?

Am I an awful mum???

So the worst has happened this morning. My partner woke up with the baby and let me sleep in as I’m so exhausted. At about 9am he came in and put our daughter in bed with me so he could go to the toilet. He laid her next me and told me she was there. Apparently I replied saying that’s fine and looked at him and my daughter but I don’t remember this I was that exhausted and half asleep. Next thing I know my daughter is crying on the floor.. she’s fallen off the bed. I’ve been crying ever since I feel like the worst mum ever😭.
We think she rolled onto her belly then slipped off the side and banged her head on the side of the bed on the way down as she had a red mark on her forehead. Our bed isn’t very high but I feel awful. I asked my partner why he didn’t put her in her down bed, but he said he didn’t want her to cry. But I 100% get that I should have woken up and watched her😭.

She seems fine in herself. She stopped crying as soon as I picked her up to comfort her and has been fine ever since, I think my crying scared her a bit tho as she’s never seen me so hysterical. I asked if we should take her to the hospital to get her checked over but my partner thinks it isn’t necessary but I’m so worried now…

I refuse to let my child be a gamer

I know video games arent inherently bad but I don’t like it as a hobby. I don’t like the idea of my kid being addicted to a video game and spending time staring at a screen. I know everything in moderation but I know way too many adults who are addicted and spend hours playing. I’d much rather have my kid do sports, music, or arts.

Partner working

Okay I need others opinion on this.. so my partner is a salesman and he only get two days off in the week. Thursdays and every other Sunday. But he’s talking about going in on his off days too. Mind you he’s barely home because of the crazy salesman hours, so when he does have a off day I would think he would want to stay home and maybe have family time or just use the day for something but he’s always saying I need to go to work in order to make a sale if I’m home I’m not making any money.. but mind you I work too . I can see if you trying to pull a lot of sales because I was a stay at home parent. Oh and this is our first child. I’m a new mom, am I tripping for trying to get him to see that off days should be use for family time no matter what? I’m only off on weekends too.