Am I tripping

So I have about 6 weeks left untill I give birth. I have no food in my home I do now cuz I went to the food pantry. My phone is off I'm using wifi. I'm 2 months behind on rent. I have no school supplies or school clothes for my two other children. Im in the negatives in my bank account. I have transportation. Yes I've tried calling resources but apparently you can't call free numbers with the wifi apps so I can't even reach out for gov assistance. is that enough to trip out on both baby daddies and cut them off. Yes I've told them both I'm struggling. I stupidly gave the unborn childs father money from selling my old car to get a new car he put my name on the insurance I only see that car when he's at my house he keeps promising to get me another in time for winter when I have to walk my other two to school but I'm feeling that not happening. I'm so tired. I feel I'ma have to buss it open online to make some money. Yes I've applied to a million jobs and have not gotten one. No the other dad can't take them he works over the road and lives in his truck. The other one doesn't even have a place he hopes between parents. Yes I'm a bird and a clown but I'm trying to get up I'm so done with men

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I have no transportation sorry

You can sign up for most stuff online websites instead of calling. I'd try to sign up for assistance that way or get a parent to call for you. I would also try to make some extra online somehow. I made my own business to do so. If your really serious with it and advertise put work into etc. It works! I do digital editing baby ultrasounds, so it's busy cause there's always someone pregnant lol

ONE YOUR NOT A BIRD NOR A CLOWN
ALSO IN SORRY YOUR STRUGGLING.
IF YOU AREN'T EMBARRASSED TRY DOING MUTUAL AID VIDEOS.
YOULL GET BACK ON YOUR FEET SOMEHOW I KNOW IT.
DO YOU HAVE A PUBLIC LIBRARY NEAR YOU?? (WITHIN BUS RIDE OR WALKING DISTANCE)
HAVE YOU APPLIED FOR ASSISTANCE THROUGH YOUR STATE

Try filling out forms for free baby supplies. on websites of pampers, huggies, similac, enfamil etc. it should help a bit with newborn. As far as your other children are concerned try to enroll into ontario works if you are in ON region. For food issues, get help from food banks there you can get tons for free.

Depending on where you live, you can get a government phone with prepaid minutes. Go to social services building and speak with a social worker.
The emergency services for people about to be evicted, snap and wic. If those fathers aren’t on child support, they need to be. You cant do it by yourself and they aren’t contributing enough that you don’t have food of all things then it’s time to get the govt involved.
Do it soon because once you have that baby your gonna even more vulnerable during the heal period. Not to mention the stress of newborns, sleepless nights, and more.

I wish you the best love.

Gov offers free cell phones too, check out lifenet

Thank you guys and yes one is on child support he's just not paying it and yes I've reported too I will be trying all these suggestions out thank you 🤍

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Do you think saying this is ok?

My friend has a daughter who’s now 20 months old. 6 months ago, she met a guy & they’re now living together.
My friend works Monday to Friday so her daughter is in childcare 9-5:30 for them days.
Her partner has said to her that he thinks on the weekend family should look after her baby so that him and her can 1 have alone time and 2 get some rest.
He also is saying her daughter needs to be in bed and asleep by 7.30 so they can get there evenings together after work.
I feel like my friend never has her and I feel terrible on her daughter!??

Predator

Recently moved into a new apartment and a African man (tall, skinny maybe mid to late 50s) who lives in the building took a interest in myself and my daughter. He gave a compliment like I dont know which one is more beautiful you or the daughter. I say thanks but then he sees us another day and he throws another compliment. Now im uncomfortable. Another day he stops in his tracks to stare at the both of us briefly. One day my daughter forgot something in the car and went downstairs to grab it. He approaches the car and asks her how old she was. She tells him please step back im not comfortable. He said " fine im going inside anyway". My daughter tells me what happened and I immediately flew into a rage. I knew exactly who she was talking about and went and knocked on his door. I told him if he has any questions he needs to ask me directly not when my daughter is alone. He acted like he never saw us before and defended his behavior by saying he has a son. Pissed me off. Am I over reacting?

Am I an awful mum???

So the worst has happened this morning. My partner woke up with the baby and let me sleep in as I’m so exhausted. At about 9am he came in and put our daughter in bed with me so he could go to the toilet. He laid her next me and told me she was there. Apparently I replied saying that’s fine and looked at him and my daughter but I don’t remember this I was that exhausted and half asleep. Next thing I know my daughter is crying on the floor.. she’s fallen off the bed. I’ve been crying ever since I feel like the worst mum ever😭.
We think she rolled onto her belly then slipped off the side and banged her head on the side of the bed on the way down as she had a red mark on her forehead. Our bed isn’t very high but I feel awful. I asked my partner why he didn’t put her in her down bed, but he said he didn’t want her to cry. But I 100% get that I should have woken up and watched her😭.

She seems fine in herself. She stopped crying as soon as I picked her up to comfort her and has been fine ever since, I think my crying scared her a bit tho as she’s never seen me so hysterical. I asked if we should take her to the hospital to get her checked over but my partner thinks it isn’t necessary but I’m so worried now…

MIL problems with lack of responding over text.

My MIL reads my texts but very rarely responds. I can see her read receipts via iMessage.

I invited her to a family beach day about 2 weeks ago. Sent her another message about 1 week ago and another 3 days ago. No reply to either. I assumed she wasn’t going to come and had other plans. My FIL does not have a phone and I could not message him.

This morning we are getting ready to leave and she just sends me a message saying “what time are we leaving?”.

Unfortunately, they cannot drive and we would need to pick them up due to mobility issues. This would involve my husband picking them up and me driving with the kids.

I have already planned our day at the beach around them not being there. For example, pre paid at a longer walk car park, pre booked activities such as crazy golf and swimming at the marina centre

Do I try and change our plans? Could I explain that we already have made plans that they cannot do and that they can still come with us. Shall I explain why we cannot take them now?

This happens often and I’m getting a little frustrated about changing our plans last minute. It’s leaving our two boys frustrated and upset. I am actively trying to reach out and engage them in our little boys lives.

Partner working

Okay I need others opinion on this.. so my partner is a salesman and he only get two days off in the week. Thursdays and every other Sunday. But he’s talking about going in on his off days too. Mind you he’s barely home because of the crazy salesman hours, so when he does have a off day I would think he would want to stay home and maybe have family time or just use the day for something but he’s always saying I need to go to work in order to make a sale if I’m home I’m not making any money.. but mind you I work too . I can see if you trying to pull a lot of sales because I was a stay at home parent. Oh and this is our first child. I’m a new mom, am I tripping for trying to get him to see that off days should be use for family time no matter what? I’m only off on weekends too.

I feel like I hate my husband.

I feel like I’ve been getting annoyed at my husband a lot lately. I’m a SAHM, and he works from home except for one day a week when he goes into the office.

I feel like he expects me to do everything. I cook, feed the baby, do the deep cleaning, etc. He does try to clean too, but honestly, I don’t really like the way he does things. For example, he never cleans the bathroom, and he doesn’t really mop or vacuum. He cleans the kitchen, but even the way he washes things annoys me because he doesn’t rinse the dishes properly. We have a dishwasher, but he prefers to hand-wash little things throughout the day.

I’ve given him bath time with our 18-month-old son, but even then, when he gets him out of the bath, I’m the one getting his clothes ready and everything. Then he sits with him for like 15–20 minutes and puts him to bed.

During the weekdays, he does play with him sometimes during the day, but in general, I’m the one with our LO most of the time, which makes sense because he’s working. But when he doesn’t have meetings, he spends a lot of that time playing games.

I’ve started to really resent him, and honestly, sometimes I feel like I hate him. We used to be such a loving couple, but I don’t even feel like giving him attention anymore because of all this resentment I’m building up.

I feel like if I cook, he should at least take care of all the kitchen cleaning. Is that unreasonable? Am I wrong for feeling this way?