Cheated on during pregnancy

Advice on how to deal with / navigate being cheated on during pregnancy please?
Already have a little one together & don’t really want to make any dramatic changes so heavily pregnant

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You & your children 100% deserve better. Cheating is bad enough as is but it’s a whole new level of disgusting disrespect with a child & pregnant partner at home. Please realise he doesn’t deserve any of you & get rid of that negatively and make yours & your children’s home a positive place full of love. You’ve got this ❤️

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Was it an affair or a one night stand I think it depends on what they are both bad but an affair means he went back more than once and didn’t care about you or your feelings which means get rid before he does it again as he will. Did he tell you or did you have to find out

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Every person's situation is different. This is something you guys will need to discuss and overcome together. I've had couple friends who similar has happened to, one ended up splitting up, the other decided they could work through it and are still together now after many years. So it really just depends on you and what you think the right choice is.

I do believe there is a big difference between a one night stand and an affair though. One is a huge mistake while the other is a repeated offence which they willingly chose to continue..

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