Abortion struggling

I think I know what’s best but it’s hurting me so much my partner is horrible every time I’m happy he crushes it makes me feel bad, I asked him do you think we could give our nearly 2 year old a sibling he agreed now I’m 9+6 weeks the whole time he makes snide remarks if I’m throwing up he will say is it the baby in a sarcastic way like I’m being dramatic? If I’m tired he will say to our daughter leave mummy she’s so tired working to hard today in a sarcastic way this is 10/20 comments a day or a look at me like rolling his eyes etc I’m sick of it, me and my daughter have been on 2 family holidays and I have just booked a third to Disney land before baby comes and as a Christmas present to her his eyes went black when I told him he straight away said your not going neither is our daughter because he’s jealous he Carnt come waiting on the visa to come back but how selfish?, I stay home he works he wouldn’t let me work than criticises me for it I have no choice now I stay home with our daughter, the other day got real bad the digs were to much I snapped at him he told me to get out pulled me by my hair pushed me and pushed my face into the sofa I went into the other room, this is my life day in day out with him what did I do to deserve this I will go to my mums house and he says their all dirty smoke drugs etc it’s my sisters bf that does their old enough and it’s not his business he’s always going in on my family I don’t know why my family have been nothing but nice to him it’s not dirty either 3 adults live their and 2 kids than when the rest of siblings turn up I can understand it gets messy, but it’s normal his culture is women cooking and cleaning I have lacked in this at the minute I’m exhausted from him the baby looking after our daughter I’m just done I Carnt stand the smell of cooking so I make sure daughter is fed and I’m done, I think I need this abortion I Can’t bring another child into this I don’t work I plan on leaving him when I can and I won’t be able to afford another baby not yet, please advice or anything on this situation I’m so lonely in all of this no one knows

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He seems to think he’s very clever/smug making those comments. Sarcasm can be funny but not when it’s done like that. He also physically assaulted you so it totally makes sense wanting to leave him. Was he like this before you got pregnant the second time? Just cause you said you asked him for this baby and now you’re wanting to abort which has me confused if he’s been like this all along. I think the only thing I agree with him on is his commentary on your family smoking and doing drugs. That’s not a place to bring a child.

The criticizing, physical abuse, not wanting you to work, trying to distance you from your family all screams domestic violence, it sounds like it’s just going to get worse from here.. I would try to leave asap and file for custody as you don’t know if he would retaliate against your child for you leaving.. it’s scary and I’m sorry your going through it but I pray you and your child get away safely

I think it's the right decision to abort the baby unfortunately.
Should start to prepare leaving him. Good luck.

It's hard because you want this baby but right now the most important thing is taking care of yourself so you can take care of the child you have. You wouldn't want her to be treated like this and you don't deserve it either so definitely try your best to leave as soon as possible so she doesn't grow up thinking this type of relationship is okay. Even if you're struggling, she'll know you made the best decision you could with what you have and your choosing to protect her. Then when the time is right, you'll have another chance at a baby

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