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Stay At Home Mamas 🤍

Venting about partner?

He comes from a single parent household so his mom did everything he also had lots of responsibilities he was the oldest mom sometimes left him with younger siblings when he was as little as 7 (Mexico) his aunt that’s like his mom she is married works even with 5 kids and during pregnancy and back I made it clear I won’t do that i was a single parent to one girl I had full responsibility her dad saw her once a week. if I have to work while my partner works and I take care of kids and do everything i rather be alone I don’t need you. I stay at home with 3 kids 2 under 2 a 15 month old and a 5 month oldwhile he works 8-8pm he never cooks he rather buy. I wash his work clothes I fold them I also do our clothes kids clothes and I fold he folds maybe with me once a month. I bathe the kids dress them he puts pjs on not daily he will say for me to do it I do everything he can’t put his pj and give him his bottle with milk while I get the other 5 month old ready and he falls asleep with 15 month old. I feel he falls asleep to not do responsibilities sometimes he doesn’t even shower when I said I don’t want him dirty in the bed I wash sheets weekly. I cook his breakfast at 7am and make dinner everyday I clean bathrooms weekly deep clean every 2 weeks I sweep mop every other day vacuum daily I told him that I needed a bit more help he washes dishes maybe once a week but sometimes he doesn’t do them all leaves some and doesn’t clean the sink or counters. Bottles I used to do it by my self everyday untill second baby it’s just too much to wash 10 bottles in the day and 10 at night or more and they are the dr brown anti colic takes a while to wash and he would help 2-3 times a week then I told him I’ll do morning bottles he can do night bottles he doesn’t do it every night. He was going to wash dinner dishes but didn’t or bottles the next day his day off I did breakfast he said I will wash dishes and bottles I said oh ok but got doubled. When night time came he washed dishes left pans said if I wanted to help him with that or bottles or which one do I want to do I said no I don’t ask everyday that I do it. So he took his time but he was on his phone watching different games and trading all day what bothers me is he leaves his stuff everywhere his work clothes all over the house his towel also I don’t pick it up after a year I noticed he started leaving 5 different work shirts thrown anywhere. I serve his plate he doesn’t like to pick up his plate I serve my 10 year old she cleans up and puts her plate in the sink he will leave it for me to get up when I’m done if I eat dinner and clean up table and his plate he will literally walk away I leave it or if he drinks something or water bottle leaves it on table empty doesn’t put in recycling he also takes forever to change garbage and once a week almost over filling also diapers fills the genie and another garbage bag half full of the Costco white ones. I don’t know what to do I have asked nicely and he says ok nothing changes told him I feel like a servant what do I do or what do I say I’m tired of repeating myself asking an adult