Am I being dramatic?
I had a fight with my baby daddy in which he took my 2 kids to his mom's house while I was at work & he said he "was not bringing them back" & that I can "visit". The following is a conversation I had with his mom. Am I in the wrong for wanting to keep my distance from her? For context, his mom is a heavy smoker (when we lived with her she never respected the fact that we had babies & would sometimes smoke weed inside.) She has a weird boyfriend that stalked her, hacked her phone, broke her windshield, slashed her tires & put a tracker in her car (he followed me to my mom's house with his best friend thinking I was her.) she lives at HIS house & she has always made her kids jealous of my babies (her daughter had a dream of killing my babies & just laughed it off when I asked if she would). Sorry this was long but I can also go into more details. My babies are 2 years and a 9 month old, exclusively breastfed & have NEVER slept away from me.. (my babies are with me, they did not stay there). He just made me feel "dramatic" for still being mad about it and not wanting to talk to his mom.
Would you stay or leave?
Long story short, me & my bf have a 2 year old.
My whole pregnancy and 2 years of my son being here hasn’t been easy. I had little support from my bf because he wanted to play golf all the time, be at the pub or worked late. He was an alcoholic and a heavy Ketamine user.. he quit a few weeks ago.
I forgave so many things, like him never supporting or spending time with us, not helping around the house, coming home in a bad way, having seizures or falling from too much drugs and alcohol.. it was scary. I forgave everything, even things like i planned a birthday day out and he got way too drunk, sniffed too much, we left early and he went to get more Ketamine. It ruined my plans and the day completely.
I said a couple months ago he needed to move out if he didn’t stop all of it, so he has.
But now i look back and can’t believe i let him treat me that way.. i feel traumatised and upset when i think back to all the things he had done. And it’s made me fall out of love with him.
But i know he is trying so hard to not go back to alcohol, drugs and is helping more and being present.
What should i do?
Ps, my son has never witnessed him being in a bad way, i have always kept our son in a different room or away from him completely.
