Hi everyone

I’m Claire and my son is called Hunter he turned 4 in June

So after family support worker ,health visitor ,doctors ,sendass and even thriving together for Cornwall getting involved from his 2 year check we finally got the NHS to confirm that he does indeed have Autism and ADHD but we only got this on Monday this week and honestly it’s been a battle and a lot to take in and I’m still struggling to process 😭😭

He sleeps well tho will wake up for a wee and try and climbs in my bed my hubby works night so he isn’t effected by it but I end up with a foot in the ribs or my face 🤣🤣

He struggles to communicate as he’s speech delayed and we have been on the waiting list for 18 months and are still waiting to have our first appointment we’ve only had the assessment done so far

He has no sense of danger loves to run ,climb ,jump and hates his reins 😭

He is sensitive to most sounds tho love’s fireworks 😱 he is not great with food he struggles with a lot of textures and smells so his diet is pretty bland but he loves fruit and broccoli and peas 🤣🤣

He has to use a spot timer and a now md next board as he gets so easily overwhelmed and emotional and he also struggles to be social yet he is also the loudest person I know 🤣🤣 he comes out in emotional and social development at 24-30 months unfortunately 😭😭

He starts reception on September 9th and I’ve applied for a echp this week but I am worried about him as he can be a hitter and biter but the school have agreed to stagger him and go off his needs

So yeah that’s me and Hunter and my hubby Duncan

We have lost all friends as over time they all said Hunter is to loud and to challenging and to much so here I am isolated and looking for mates

in our community

Feel like my toddler literally dislikes me

My 17m old son has favoured his dad for at least 6 months and has not gone through a stage where he favours me, it’s to the point where he will choose his dad over me every single time for everything, when he’s ill wants his dad, just in general for everything, it’s starting to actually make me feel shit because I’m like naturally don’t babies favour their mum mostly? We are very 50/50 parents, I’m at work mon to fri and so is dad so isn’t like he sees one of us more than the other. Has anyone been through this? I know it can be normal but for this long? It’s starting to genuinely make me feel shit.

Your toddlers bestie parents

My daughter has a lil bestie at nursery.

She is always talking about him. They run up to each other and hug etc. It's honestly the sweetest thing.

I've only ever seen his parents like once. But I'm thinking next time I see them should I just be a lil begfriend and try to start a convo with them.

Like hey our kids are friends should we be friends 😂😅🤣 Lord help me, I am rusty.

No but seriously.... What do you do?

Do you make friends with your toddlers friend parents or just leave it alone.

We don't have friends in this area. So it would be nice if some weekends she can just go to the park and play with him.

Am I tripping or has this man lost his mind???

We came home from picking him up from work and I’ve been having this pain in my stomach. I told him I’m in pain I need to lay down. I had planned on making dinner when I felt better but the pain didn’t go away. It’s 9pm, and the kids haven’t eaten. I fell asleep and was expecting him to figure out what we were gonna eat. While I was asleep, the kids completely trashed the place while he was playing the game. Then he comes in the room saying “what are we gonna eat, if you knew you wasn’t cooking you should’ve said that when we got home.” On top of this, he came in the room, saw how there was trash (we have a 1 year old) on the floor, and started kicking the trash to my side of the room saying “this is disgusting. I’m not cleaning this up why is it all on my side.” I had to get up, make our 5 year old a quick chicken quesadilla and some sweet potato fries. He just sat there. Then after I made her food I went back to lay down and he came and tried to physically get me out of the bed saying “you need to shower and you’re in my spot get up and go shower.” Forces me out the bed and says he’ll order something. I told him our daughter needs to get in her bedtime clothes and he needs to do night time duties with her. He didnt say or do anything. So he left it alone and after I finally got her in the bed he sat next to me and said “I don’t like eating late I’m not ordering nothing. I’m getting in the shower.” So now I have to cook for myself or just not eat. Like I don’t understand why he has to be so harsh and manipulative. Am I tripping ?

Shoutout to the good husbands out there 💕

I never see posts about admiring our husband instead all i see is useless , selfish, toxic relationships. Anyways it’s 3:21am and I couldn’t sleep bc our baby kept waking up needing her paci and my husband took our baby girl to go sleep in the guest room together so i can get some sleep. he also wakes up every morning and makes me 3 bottles to see me up already ahead on the morning. my hubby runs my feet every night before bed, ive never had to wash dishes or laundry bc he knows i hate those specific chores and i handle everything else. husband never learned how to cook but he started taking classes early into our relationship, he has always bin kind, consistent , and considerate and have NEVER changed we have bin together for 6 years total & married 3 years. we are not rich by any mean lol at allllll but he always makes sure we have what we need and I am blessed enough to be able to swipe his card whenever i like and it never declines. I’ve gained a lot of weight with my two pregnancies. We have two children under two and he has bin so patient and encouraging about me getting back into shape every time I criticize myself he shuts it down and just overall speaks life into me. I just wanted to rant about how grateful I am for my man and all he does and if you got a good man at home they deserve the same recognition as us mothers get all the time

back to school

ok whaaatt is everyone doing when their littles are at school?! i mean besides clean! i have to fill 9 hour days 5 days a week! lol

Parenting help with an almost 4 year old

First things first I’m trying to be a lot better about setting boundaries and sticking to them and what I say instead of giving in. I know I probably made things harder for myself cause I’ve been pretty lenient but we’ve been having a lot more outbursts with my oldest recently and I am not sure what to do about it anymore.

My son has not been listening very well to my directions and honestly just blatantly ignoring and pushing the limits lately and I don’t really know what kinds of things I can do to enforce the rules better. He’s also just been acting out like crazy and having meltdown after meltdown and talking back.

I’ve tried a time out to take him away from the whole situation and he has started to think it’s funny so obviously that isn’t seeming to work. I’ve taken toys away if he hasn’t been listening to the rules with those (ex: he rides his bike where he’s not allowed to/goes too far away, he got his bike taken away) which works in some situations but not all, he’s gotten cartoons taken away for the day, treats taken away, etc. I’ve been really working on the natural consequences but I don’t know what a natural consequence for talking back or throwing a fit when I say no would be. Or how would you go about if your kid swung at you to hit you when they’re angry that you said no to a popsicle for example.

I’m just really struggling with this phase of toddlerhood where a meltdown comes from anything not going his way and I understand some of the developmental stuff and whatnot but I’m losing my mind feeling like I’m butting heads with him all day everyday

Hi everyone I’m Claire and my son is called Hunter he turned 4 in June

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