Ptsd from birth and baby 2?

With my nov 23 baby, his birth was so traumatic! I’ve suffered with ptsd, anxiety and depression since. I’ve had lot’s of therapy and I’m slowly turning a corner. Definitely in a better place than I was.

We originally wanted 2 under 2. I’m desperate to extend our family but still know I’ve got some healing to do first and still fear being pregnant again and giving birth and loosing myself for such a long time!

Has anyone been in a similar position and prepared to share their experience second time round? I’m hoping baby #2 can be healing and that newborn experience we wished for first time round.

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Had a very rough birth with my first 7 years ago now, for the first 2 years we were adamant we wouldnt put ourselves through it again. Just before she turned 3 we wanted another, after 2 failed attempts we had a successful pregnancy and our birth plan centred around making sure none of that happened again. I would say second time around we were more aware of conplications and put measures in place to avoid, they allowed me to put into place that if anythung started going wrong we would take it to a c section before lots of interventions could be put in place, they honoured this and when we saw warning signs we went straight to c section, I was mainly afraid of my baby needing nicu again so that was a huge deal for me the fact she was born in perfect condition and we could have our skin to skin immediately. So much better and even though it didnt go conpletely to plan I still felt healed in the fact i got those little moments that I missed the first time. I had post partum ptsd after the first birth.

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